Thanks to the comedian Jimmy Kimmel we now have a theoretically
no judgment National Unfriend Day.
National Unfriend Day started in 2014 so don't freak if you didn't know it existed. While there are all sorts of media users. I know that I can't be the only one who doesn't like to have the cousin of a friend of a friend or a friend's ex boyfriend on my personal Facebook page. So if you're like me or if you just think that its about time you clean up your media. Then you might find National Unfriend Day to be extremely handy and just the nudge you need.
Here are 7 steps that I like to follow.
I personally like to grab a bottle of wine and pour myself big glass.
Sometimes I find that I need a little liquid courage to unfriend some of my random relatives.
I like to write up a creative little post vaguely giving answer to the necessary purge.
My go to is simply that I am taking a break from the internet,
One my post is written and my first glass is done. I pour myself a second and begin to unfriend.
The trick is to be quick. If you have to take time to think about why they should stay or feel the need to justify their Facebook friendship then they don't need to really be there.
Once I gone really fast through my list and clicked away the obvious people. I find it is now time for glass number 3 because the next step is to get rid of people who are more negative than positive.
Negatively is overrated and you can definitely do without. If when thinking about someone, you can't really think of many good qualities or if they make you feel bad/question yourself. Then you are probably safe with the decision to unfriend.
Now that I have gone through my list twice now. The first a click frenzy and the second a negative
nancy dump. It is now time to move onto the people who you just don't connect with. This in particular to mean means people with just outrageous opinions that I really could care less to hear. One of my biggest pet peeves is someone commenting on things when they refuse to educate themselves with all sides. So glass number 4 in I click away all the stuck up silly little people that I do not really connect with.
Now that all of the unfriending has been done. I find it helpful to take a step back and relish in your purge. I find this the perfect time to wind down from all the excitement and go to bed.
With a good night sleep under your belt and sober eyes. It is now a good time to look over your friends list and see if maybe you made mistake unfriending your grandmother.
It's up too you how intense you want to interpret Nation Unfriends Day.
Unfriend that random girl you met in a bar 4 years ago or go in and unfriend your annoying cousin who you just don't like.
It can be scary, but you got this.
Let us know how it goes #ThavinMarcob @ThavinMarcob
National Kindness day is celebrated annually on November 13th.
Which just so happens to be tomorrow.
This wonderful day was first launched in 1998. The idea around creating such a day
was that it would help to promote kindness that would benefit the world.
National Kindness Day is a day where all are encouraged to be spontaneous in our goodwill gestures. To everyone and anyone that you come across.
This meaningful movement has grown quite a bit over the years.
It's a great little annual reminder to not just encourage kindness on November 13th,
but all throughout the entire year. Random acts of kindness don't necessarily need to big these big grand gestures. They can be small and most importantly they can be free!
A smile to a stranger is free! It cost you nothing and can be infectiously contagious.
It's a small insignificant goodwill gesture that has the ability to spread innocently from one to another. It's a goodwill gesture that keeps on giving and giving.
Did I mention it was free?
Over the years there have been quite a few different studies published about the connection between positivity in your brain among happiness and kindness.
This is big and here is why...
When sharing a smile you begin to create two things.
One is a positive loop in your brain and one in the brain of the person
who received your glorious smile. Meaning both your brains are creating positive loops.
Science has found a link between being kind and our happiness. Which means we are not only happy when we are kind, but you help to make someone else happy by being kind.
National Kindness Day may be tomorrow, but why not start a day earlier.
It's good for you, it's good for the people around you, and it's good for the world.
Happy Monday Everyone!
Happy Halloween Everyone!
I can not believe Halloween is finally upon us. Truth be told I am a little bummed October is winding down this year. I have been so busy with plans and projects that I wasn't able to enjoy the season as I would have liked. Although I am really excited because this year my daughter and I are dressing up as pirates and passing out candy to all the youngsters. I can't wait for tonight! I am so ready to dress up as a pirate with my daughter, but I am extremely ready to pass out all of the goodies we have for the youngsters this year. After we get to meet all of the spooky, creepy, super, and adorable costumes of all the youngsters. The plan is the then enjoy a hard cup of hot apple cider and watch a spooky movie, but nothing too spooky because I'll freely admit I am a chicken.
What are your plans for Halloween Night?
Are they cooler than mine?
And now I would like to give a very cheerful Hello to November!
I might be pretty freaking tired and still a little sick, but I am here to conquer. The beginning of November is always a fresh start in my mind. It's the time to start getting ready for the holidays and a time to start planning family time! Which is and probably will always be my favorite part of Fall and Winter! I just love being able to share a family dinner with all of my adult children at once. I always get those warm and fuzzy feelings of happiness and immense joy.
What is your favorite aspect of November?
Do you go to family or does family go to you for the holidays?
I hope everyone has a cool spooky Halloween filled with lots of safe excitement.
If I'm missing out let me know and tag us in your Halloween Adventures using
#ThavinMarcob or @ThavinMarcob.
Have a happy and safe Halloween!
I created Thavin & Marcob in the living room of my rental house a few years ago. I put my heart and soul into every aspect. I love every nook and cranny of my company, but there are a few thing that I love more so than others.
Here are my top 5!
I spent forever and a day trying to create the perfect name for my bright lighted idea. The name Thavin & Marcob came to me while I was searching. In case you don't know, our name is a mash up of all five of my children's names.
Here's the breakdown..
Th- Our Youngest contribution
Av- Our 4th child's contribution
In- Is from my business partner
&- Stands for my husband and I
Mar- is from my first born
Cob- is from our second born
That's what I used to create the name
Thavin & Marcob
Unique is such a strong stand alone word.
I love that Thavin & Marcob fits with the word Unique.
I love the idea that the fashion choices I make with in Thavin & Marcob
have the ability to make a difference To others.
Whether it's a high end 100% cashmere scarf that was created by disabled weavers,
or a 1.00 Fair Trade Friendship bracelet. Both of these products mater to someone and to the world.
If I want to support a manufacture who is running a No Waste Manufacturing Plant..
then guess what I can do that at Thavin & Marcob.
If I truly don't care about the impact my purchase makes and I just need something to wear for my date night with my absolute amazing husband then yes, I can do that too!
I love the diversity and the acceptance that we are all uniquely different individuals.
As many of you know
I'm not the only owner of Thavin & Marcob. The kids all own a little piece of it. I am the founder and one of the CEO's. Our company is entirely family owned. We discuses everything from promotions to who's turn it is to clean the windows.
The community support has always amazed me.
I'm humbled by it, I'm truly honored by those who knew us when we were first starting out and we only had a landing page and we didn't know what we were doing and my blog post from that time where horrible! I know it, you know it, and yet you still encouraged my with love to keep going. to not give up. Those people are what kept me going when I got tired , those people are why I keep growing, why I'm still doing what I do. I'm always looking for better ways, a way to grow, to learn something new that will benefit all of us. And truly I have the community to thank for that drive.
Starting Thavin & Marcob has taken me beyond my comfort zone time and time again.
The experience of that is one that I can never replace. Even today I'm stretching out my arms ready to embrace the new, to take chances, to put myself out into the world that I may not have done if not for the fact that I started Thavin & Marcob.
I love my job. There is never any doubt or uncertainty when it come to the love I have for my job. I know I might sound full of it to some of you, but I am being 100% honest when I say I love my job. I love discovering new trends and showing them to others. I love discovering new amazing companies that I can effortlessly add into our categories. As annoying as it probably sounds to some of you. I just love my job.
No matter any way you flip it I technically work in retail. While retail is this vast ocean filled to the brim with other stores. There is one thing that many, not all, but many have in common. Of which I happen to hate.
It's The holidays...
I enjoy the holiday season just like the next gal. I love the warm, sparkle, magical, feeling that comes with the holiday season. However as the years have progressed I have noticed that the holidays seems to be making an earlier and earlier appearance in numerous amounts of retail stores.
This year I spotted Christmas decorations up and ready to sell as soon as August.
August! Christmas is in December. Why put out Christmas products four months in advance?
I personally think that the action is a silly one and for me only helps to cheapen the feeling of Christmas. I can't possibly be the only one, but seeing holiday decorations hypes me up and gets me really excited. However when you see them four months in advance that hype/excited feeling diminishes and falls away. I have felt this way my entire life and can't help, but to be sadden that a feeling I loved so much has been lost.
I am fully aware of Why stories choose to put out holiday merchandise so in advanced.
While I have no power when it come to other retails and how/when they choose to present to the public their holiday merchandise. I do have some say for my home. My family and I choose to celebrate each holiday individually and at the traditional scheduled time. We decorate for Halloween, for Thanksgiving, and for Christmas all during their perspective months. This is just something we do to keep the warm, sparkle, magical feeling of each holiday alive and well.
What's the one thing you hate about retail?
When do you decorate for Christmas?
Let us know we love learning and growing and a majority of that comes from you!
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I often get asked where I write our blog posts at and how I come up with the topics for our blog posts. What better day than a Fall Wednesday to share with you a behind the scenes look into what we do and how we do it.
That cashier stand you stand at to check out is also my desk. It gets messy and overloaded with paperwork. Sometimes when I'm researching it will have three different devices open at the same time! I find the quite mornings to be the perfect opportunity to write. Writing for me is an outlet for my individuality. It's a way to share who I am with all of you as well as a way to connect with you on a more personal level. It's not just about shopping with us, it's about sharing our passion, sharing our love for the job, and about about getting to know you!
Working From Home
I am extremely fortunate to have the business partners I have. They make down time and days where I work form home possible. If I'm working from home I will usually snuggle up in bed with a cup of coffee and write. Although I much prefer writing long into the night. There's just something about the quite and stillness of night that inspires me to be the best me that I can be. When I can I do take time to read, reading opens my mind to the possibilities around me. It allows for the flow of words to come a little easier and with more clarity. In these moments you might find me curled up on the couch or out in the back porch.
Inspiration is a hard one. I read to open up my mind. While other times I may go for a walk. The truth is that by opening up my mind to any and all possibilities I discover that inspiration is all around me. It is present within a chat with the barista who made my morning coffee. It is within the smile that a stranger gave me as I passed her down the aisle of my local grocery store. It is even sometimes the lack of human interaction that sparks inspiration for me.
With all three of those interactions I find the possibilities endless.
Lets start with The Barista who made my coffee this morning. The shop she works at is not convenient. I have to get out of my car and walk in to grab my daily cup of joe. I make sure that I leave for work early just so that she specifically will make my coffee and here's why. Here is also possible blog topics for me to write about.
1. She has taken the time to get to know me
2. She has taken the time to let me get to know her.
3. She knows my drink
Taken those thoughts I can come of with Article Titles
1. 5 Ways to stay motivated in a job you love
2. What does fantastic customer service look like?
3. tips and tricks to keep you going even when you don't want too
It's a 5 minute interaction at best. She's really fast and amazing at her job.
So it never takes very long yet here she is my inspiration!
The lady who smiled at me as I walked down the aisle of the grocery store is an inspiration. It was a passing gesture, something that was polite, sweet and very endearing.
What inspiration can you find within that 10 second interaction with a total stranger who has probably long forgotten you?
Well here's what subjects come to me when I really get down and think about it.
1. What The power of a smile can accomplish
2. 10 ways to share love with the world around you
3. Its always the small things that create the biggest impact
That was maybe 10 seconds you guys. It was a quick pass in an aisle. Yet that smile has the ability to be an inspiration. So smile and be someone's inspiration for today!
Yesterday I was scrolling down liking pictures from our Instagram family and I saw a small trend. It's nothing to drastic and one I noticed probably because I am a mom, but I noticed that lots of parents where sharing pictures of their children. Some of these pictures had the kids dressed in school uniforms. Some of these school uniforms had the names of the schools on them and some of those post had the name of their children on them. See where I'm going with this? I personally believe that is quite a bit of personal information about your child to be putting out there. I love posts about families, I love that people are willing to share there small and large happy moments with me. However my concern for what I believe to be mistakenly oversharing of personal information sparked a few ideas.
1. How to safe Gard your child's identity while sharing pics
2. 10 tips for Online safety for families
3. Why I chose not to allow my children to have a Facebook Account
The majority of my articles don't actually get published. I find that after I write up a draft I either do not like it or I think that it doesn't make sense for our platform. So I choose to toss it in the recycling bin and continue forth.
Inspiration is all around me and it sparks in the most unlikely of scenarios.
The majority of our topics for our articles are from our everyday life. It is something we saw, experienced, or something that held some kind of meaning to us.
What situations spark inspiration for you?
I love sharing with you guys!
Everyone at some point has come across an article, book, blog, or study that explains the characteristics/traits that all successful people posses. While some will share some new piece of information, most give there creative take on the same information. I have read quite a few of these types of articles and studies. So today I thought it would be fun to share with you what are some of the traits that ThavinMarcob utilizes in order to touch success.
How often do you find yourself picking up a book?
I personally love to read. It is one of my favorite pass times. So this trait is an easy on for me to adopt into my routine because it is already apart of it.
It is the #1 thing that is always recommended when it comes to being successful. Expanding ones mind of information and knowledge will help you to have a greater chance for success.
Our moto at Thavin & Marcob is,
"Always Learning Always Growing".
We know that we do not know everything and we know that every situation has the value for new knowledge. Which is why we never pass up on or take for granted a learning opportunity. For these opportunities help us to better ourselves for the future.
Being able to overcome fear is a huge and incredibly important trait that is common with people that feel success. It is also one that I try my best to posses. I am only human, I do feel fear and I sometimes let that fear drive my choices in life. However the more I remind myself to not let fear control me the more I take charge of my own destiny. It can be easy to play on the safe side and to not take fearful risks, but one must remember that success rarely lives in the safe zone.
Being an early riser has its benefits. I personally try to wake up between 6-7 am in the morning. Sometimes I do hit that snooze button a few too many times, but for the most part I wake up when I am supposed to. I tend to only need 5/7 hours of sleep so this trait isn't a far stretch from my normal personality.
In today's day and age is it easy to become distracted rather quickly. Which can make working on a project that require all of your focus hard to accomplish in a timely manner. One thing that I read time and time again is that staying focused on your goals at hand is an important trait that breads success. I do not think that I posses laser focus. I also fall victim to the distractions of today's charm. In order to ensure that I keep focus and not risk distractions I power house through projects. This way I can get a majority of it done making sure I hit all of the highlights and then if I need to go back later and fill in the little parts that are missing.
This is how ThavinMarcob and myself utilize the traits that successful people posses.
What traits have you learned about that breads success that we did not mention?
Do you use any to help you succeed in any part of your life?
One of my favorite aspects of Fall is feeling the temperature begin to drop a few degrees. I absolutely love the cold weather and welcome it with open arms. When the time presents itself I do like to indulge in a toasty warm spiked beverage every now and again.
I thought today I would share with you my current go to recipes
for that deliciously warm perfect Fall spiked beverage.
Delectiable Hot Apple Cider
Hot apple cider alone makes my mouth water with just it's delicious smell.
Recently we were experimenting and realized that paired with Brandy
an adult friendly Fall themed cup of goodness is born.
If you find yourself hosting a party this Fall. Mugs of Delectable Hot Apple Cider is the beverage choice everyone is sure to love. If you have the time try and make it from scratch. I know that I am definitely going to try sometime this season.
Make It Photo Worthy
I'm always too excited to warm up my belly with this sweet apple cider concoction to make it
"photo worthy", but if you're feeling it. Decorate your mug of hot apple cider with a cinnamon stick or with a slice of apple.
Ticklish Sweet Hot Chocolate
This is a recipe that my husband and 22 year old daughter crafted one evening before a family movie night. I'm not a huge fan of Hot Chocolate, but I've got to admit this one is quite the cup of scrumptious sweetness.
Make It Photo Worthy
Sprinkle a few marshmallows over the top or you luscious cup of coco. Take it a bit further and drizzle chocolate sauce over the top or dust over some coco powder.
A Heavenly Good Morning
Now this is one of my all time favorites that I have been drinking for years. I absolutely love coffee. I honestly maybe drink too much a day, but I just can not go for long without a steaming caffeinated cup of coffee in reach.
Make It Photo Worthy
Drizzle over chocolate or caramel sauce. If you're in it to win it dazzle your friends by accenting your cup with milk froth or chocolate shavings.
I hope you enjoy our recipes.
Make sure to tag us if you make some this Fall.
Have any favorites of your own?
Share with us we would love to expand out horizons with your help.
*Please make sure to follow the rules and regulations of you nation
when drinking anything that contains alcohol. Do not drink and drive.
As well as always to drink responsibly.
We love you and hope you have a happy Wednesday.
Self Care is something that is often overlooked even thought it does truly hold much importance. When the kids where younger and my husband traveled out of town for work. I confidently considered myself the queen of 15 minute selfcare ideas!
Here's my list of Efficient and Inexpensive Self Care Ideas
Try a new one everyday and see how you feel!
Self Care Ideas
1. Play your favorite song and allow your self to dance like no one is watching!
2. Toss a pillow on the floor and get comfortable.
Breathe in and out for 15 minutes allowing yourself to clear your mind.
3. Stretch your muscles for 15 minutes, nothing that's going to bring a sweat on.
Just a nice stretch out getting the blood moving through your body .
4. Take a cat nap! ( this one is my favorite)
5. Relax out on the porch and enjoy the scenery around you!
6. Take a walk even if it's just around the block or to the end of the driveway.
7. Journal writing is the perfect way to get all your thoughts together.
8. Sip on some coffee in your favorite spot.
9. Relax with a hot washcloth draped over face.
10. Just be you and do something you enjoy.
Decluttering or Organizing can help with the self care process.
It allows you to feel in total control of something, which is not always the case in life.
Here are a few ideas for some Decluttering/Organizing Self Care.
1. Toss out all that make up you didn't like or never use.
2. Clean out your closet and reorganize it. This way it is easier to find the perfect outfit for next week.
3. Clean out the junk drawer, we all have one.
You know that drawer that holds everything and nothing all at the same time.
4. Change your sheets.
5. Organize the pantry so grocery shopping is a little easier.
6. Clean off your work space at home.
7. Toss out or donate things you no longer need that are laying around the house.
8. Rake up the leaves.
9. Organize your hall closet.
10. Clean out the garage. Even if it's a little everyday eventually the job will get done.
Have A Little Cash
Have a little cash to spend then here are some of my favorite Self Care ideas on how to use it.
1. Spa Facial
2. Salon Manicure
3. Spa Pedicure
4. Gym membership
6. Lunch out at your favorite restaurant.
7. A trip to the local Book Store.
8. Coffee at your favorite Coffee House.
9. Ice cream
10. Splurge on something you don't need, but just want.
Affirmations are real
Affirmations are not only real, but studies show that they are pretty helpful.
Here's a few of my favorites.
1. You got this
2. Your are worthy
3. You are successful
4. Today is a new day to be a new you
6.I'm grateful for the new day
7. I love who I am today
8. I can stretch the limits of the limitations I have placed on myself.
9. I can accept my failures and strive to accomplish the impossible.
10. There is no other one like me in this world, I am unique!
Do you do any of my favorite Self Care ideas?
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Have any favorites I don't know about?
Comment and let me know. I am always looking for news ways to Self Care.
I hope you have a wonderful day!
Thavin & Marcob is a place where you are celebrated for being you!