You proved your point
Life is not all fun and laughter
It was a long, hard winter
But it is summer now
And the tears shed have birthed new flowers
I beat you, you son-of-a-bitch
As hard as you tried
You were not the death of me
I was stronger
My faith saw me through
I am back
Better than I was
I will survive
I will even thrive
I will love
I will fly again
Joyful days have finally arrived
And they will last forever.
I call my intuition my “god self” It told me I needed to slow down and listen and then doing what I was led to do after learning I had cancer. I started doing meditation and I learned reiki which I started doing every day on myself. Whenever I tuned into my body, it let me know what it needed in order to heal, and it would always direct to just the next right step, resource and person.. For me this meant getting grid of most of my possessions and renting a small cabin on a farm in the woods- getting back to nature and living simply. All through my journey with cancer, I was led to just the right person or resource in my path to healing.
The body is a channel to the soul. Rather than using the illness to beat ourselves up, or set off on a crusade to figure out why bad things happen to good people, we can use the illness to get our attention.
Our bodies have a deep desire to live. They have an incredible tolerance for damage and destruction. I believe that we live as long as our soul needs our bodies and live well because of the care we give to our bodies. The care we give to our bodies determines the quality of life we will have, but not the length of life.
Getting ill is what woke me up to my body and made me pay attention to it. Bernie Siegel says “Diseases can be our spiritual flat tires- disruptions in our lives that seem to be disastrous at the time but end by re-directing our lives in a meaningful way.” I could no longer view my body as a machine to be driven and manipulated. Now I needed to see it as my companion who needed to be loved and listened to. A sanctuary to be worshipped.
I started asking my body what it needed to tell me.
I knew that being healed and being cured are two different things. You can be healed without being cured and you can be cured without being healed.
Being healed is more of a spiritual and emotional process that can lead to a physical healing. Curing can be more of an external process. If the medical establishment makes no attempt to cure you from a disease like cancer, without helping you heal what lies at the root of your illness, your body will most likely fail to thrive and you are more likely to experience a recurrence.
To be healed means: to become whole” which means to repair inner fractures, restore emotional harmony and attain peace, which can happen even in the presence of disease. To be cured is to be free of disease. My goal is to achieve both.
What does your body need in order to get better? What needs to be healed in your soul, your heart, your life? What steps might you take to a healing plan into place? Hopefully, you can start this process and avoid getting sick by starting now when you are healthy.
My story lies deep in my body’s memory,
Protected by layers of fat.
Bits of it surge to the forefront, unexpectantly giving me glimpses of my long-lost self,
And the all-knowing one, who longs to embrace, bless and heal all of me
My story can’t be figured out.
It speaks to me in its own time, and on its own terms
As I stay connected to my feeling
My body reveals clues and chapters.
When I was diagnosed with cancer 4 years ago, I realized needed to slow down and nurture my body. To redirect my energy, to leisure over work. To figure out why I am so impatient so I could relax. I was no longer willing to violate my body by eating to fill emptiness. I needed to face feelings I had tried to push down with food before. I literally needed to get things “off my chest!”
What it all comes down to is I finally stopped to listen to the wake-up calls I had ignored before and come to my senses in all areas of my life so I could stay there. This is what cancer did for me- it woke me up. I know now that if I forget what can happen and go back to my old ways, I could get cancer again. I am unwilling to do that. In the face of death, I found the strength to forgive myself for violating my body and for being mindless. I found deep energy, deep breathing and meditation to give me the strength, stretching and stillness I needed to heal.
Bernie Siegel says that right down to the cellular level, our bodies know what we are to become. The body is a channel to the soul. Rather than using the illness to beat ourselves up, or set off on a crusade to figure out why bad things happen to good people, we can use the illness to get our attention.
My body has a deep desire to live. It has an incredible tolerance for damage and destruction. I believe that we live as long as our soul needs our bodies. We live as long as we do because of the care we give to our bodies. The care we give to our bodies determines the quality of life we will have, but not the length of life.
Getting ill also woke me up to my body and made me pay attention to it. Siegel (1986) writes “Diseases can be our spiritual flat tires- disruptions in our lives that seem to be disastrous at the time but end by re-directing our lives in a meaningful way.” I could no longer view my body as a machine to be driven and manipulated. Now I needed to see it as my companion who needed to be loved and listened to. A sanctuary to be worshipped.
Harboring toxic emotions and suppressing feelings affects one’s body. Holding trauma in the body’s tissues causes toxins to build up which can lead to disease. I started asking my body what it needed to tell me.
Morning everyone! This week I would like to welcome our guest blogger Gail Rognan. Beloved author of I Lost Two Boobs and Gained Two Balls.
I hope you enjoy and remember to share her inspirational message!
LIVING IN THE TENSION,
LIVING WITH UNCERTAINTY,
CAN BE AN EXCRUSIATEING PROCESS.
Let me share how I have found a way to make this process more bearable
and even joyful when I was diagnosed with breast cancer:
When we feel pain or fear, our tendency is to fight or flee. But this just makes things worse. It takes courage to allow uncomfortable feelings to surface and acceptance of what is brings relief and a sense of peace. But you can’t just do it do it halfway, or do it for a period then stop. It must be a continuous process.
2. MEDIATE OR QUIET YOUR MIND
The way I do this is by doing reiki which is an energy healing practice on myself for 30-40 minutes a day. It is a time when I can quiet my mind and listen to what God whispers to me so I know my next step.
Even in the midst of the greatest darkness, when I felt as if I was dying, if I could face whatever feelings were there, I could find peace and even joy. I have never lost my sense of the spiritual, the holy. It is the part of me that has a natural longing for life and healing and leads me to the right person, resource or step in my healing journey when I give it the room to do so.
3. SPEND TIME IN NATURE
I walk with my dog daily, go often to Earth Sanctuary in Freeland, and hug trees. This is where I feel closest to God. I re-learn from trees and wildlife that I need to wait it out and trust the process.
4. LEAN ON OTHERS
About a two years ago I started a women’s circle, and even thought the circle has disbanded, some of these women have become like family. Several of them stayed with me during my most recent surgery and my reiki teacher gave me reiki every day a few weeks before my surgery, the day of my surgery and 4 days after my surgery and I healed quickly. I have learned dot reach out and ask for help.
5. LIVE OUT YOUR PURPOSE
I started writing as a young girl and my mother praised my writing ability. I started writing a journal over 30 years ago and still write in it every morning. I started writing what I call “soul poems” about 12 years ago. I even wrote a workbook that I used with my coaching clients that I self-published. But my writing was always a hobby and I have struggled with how to express my creativity with how to pay the bills all my life.
Most of the time paying the bills has won out.
It wasn’t until I got diagnosed with breast cancer that I finally woke up and realized that I had to take my creativity seriously and write a book about my journey which I am in the process of now. My book is a combination of my soul poems, journal entries and a picture of the oil painting I did about a year ago. Writing this book is my way of healing myself and helping others who are going through a similar journey.
When you have a God-given gift, a creative talent, you must share it. It is not about making money. It is about expressing who you are and touching others. It is about living out your purpose.
I truly believe that if we don’t do this, we risk getting sick. That is what happened to me. I did not take my gift seriously and it got stuck inside my body and turned into a disease because it was unable to get out. I let my drivedness to be responsible rule my life and it caught up with me.
When I write or draw or paint, I feel free and at peace and those effects everything I do and everyone I interact with in a positive way.
I teach, sell, pet-sit because they are passions and because I can and they are needed. I write because I must.
I write to understand myself and my needs. It keeps me honest and mindful. It makes me a better citizen of the world. When others read what I have written it reminds them to share their own gifts. To be their true self. To be of service.
I have learned that when things are going well, I can get complacent and relax my daily, spiritual practices. But the old behaviors start creeping in and before I know it things go back to the way they were, and they become worse.
If change, tension and uncertainty can become our friends and a natural part of life, it can be the catalyst for greatness and healing.
Buddhist nun Pema Chodron says that “To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. “
In order to learn how to fly we must stop chasing our ego’s demands for money and power and security and listen to our heart.
I have flown the next. Flown the coup. Cancer is what woke me up and gave me my life back the way it is meant to be.
I have learned to live in the tension and I am learning how to fly.
Force, release. caress
It is not force
That will finally
It is love
And giving ourselves
To the Holy.
Caressing each self
That we happen
What's your style?
I always thought I was more of the classic look kind girl but after looking into these definitions I may have to change the way I see myselff!
A Classic Girl is always looking for that timeless piece to add to her closet. She puts effort into the quality rather then the trend.
The Simple Girl is my favorite! She's the girl in jeans and a t-shirt. The type of girl that see's the importance in accessories and uses them to her benefit.
( a pair of heels can take this outfit to a new level)
The expressive Edgy Girl has no fear of patterns or high fashion trends. She wares it with pride and knows she is all that and a little more.
4. Urban Chic
Urban Chic Girls are quite magical creatures. They love taking used clothing and giving it a new perspective. They have the ability to create the most impressive outfits, from items that some may think are just over worn.
Upon looking into these I found that the list can go on and on depending on who is reading and who is publishing. The ones shown here were the ones I felt most of us could identify with. So now tell me...
What's your style?
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As consumers we have huge amounts of consumer buying power.
Power that can reach across the globe. The power that we have as consumers can unknowingly affect the life of a child in a developing country. Our consumer power gives us the ability to positively affect the life of a child, a family, or a village. That's why the Fair Trade Foundation is incredibly important to ThavinMarcob.
What Is Fair Trade
What is Fair Trade is actually a question we hear often when chatting with our clients.
We love explaining the importance of Fair Trade as well as the ripple down effect that your consumer buying power has on these developing countries.
Fair Trade - is an organization that was created in 1992. The main focus of the foundation is to help create a Fair Pay Environment as well as Establish and Maintain Safe Working Conditions.
This means that products labeled Fair Trade or Economist in ThavinMarcob Collections was purchased through this program and have been checked/screened to make sure that the workers are receiving fair pay. As well as working in a safe environment.
Fair Pay does not mean minimum wage in the USA frame of mind. Fair pay means that they are receiving a fair pay that is determined by their country’s economic development.
The organization is also known as a protector of Women and Children. The Fair Trade Foundation works especially hard to ensure that women and children are not being taken advantage of,
In fact Fair Trade is known to Empowered Women!
As a consumer buying Fair Trade Products helps you to participate in a Global Movement!
As a plus Fair Trade products are free of genetically engineered ingredients!
Choosing to Support Fair Trade helps to better the lives of so many.
How Do We Shop
The Fair Trade Products that we carry are a part of our Economist Collection.
Which is a collection of boutique fashions we put together
in an easy to find way that are all Fair Trade.
I personally shop is all Five of ThavinMarob's Categories.
I find the clarification in the designing and manufacturing of products
to be incredibly helpful especially when gift giving.
For example I have a friend who is all about the protection of women in developing countries.
Making our Economist Collection the perfect spot to find her a gift I know she is going to love. I could pick anything from that collection and she would be over the moon. That she was given a gift that represented her core beliefs, personality, and is fashionable.
It's not just a gift for her in her eyes . It's a gift for every hand it ever touched because it supports a much greater meaning that quite literally has a ripple effect across the globe to last a life time.
The old rules have gone out with the new times. Its about time we start taking the term "dancing to the beat of your own drum" into action! Here are a few myths that are still floating around that sadly do not stand the test of time!
1. White cannot be worn after Labor day
False, winter white is here and we love it!
2. No mini skirts after 35
False again, wear it and wear them with confidence!
3.Don't Mix Prints
False, fashion is daring so go ahead and dare the day with your mixed prints!
4.Don't wear stripes
False Stripes do not make you look larger as your mother suggested! Play around with different sized stripes and see what you like.
5. Your shoes must match your purse.
False, actually its cuter if it doesn't. This allows your purse to become a statement piece, An accessory on its own.
6. Do not wear that dress over your pants!
False, allow your dress to move around your wardrobe. Wear it on its own or carry it over with some skinny jeans.
What fashion warnings do you remember your mother telling you?
Thavin & Marcob
I love scarves!
That special piece of fabric can take an outfit from cozy to sophisticated or droopy to comfy chic in a matter of seconds. If your like me and what a different way to jazz up or make an outfit comfy and chic. Then you have read at least one article telling you how to achieve such a look with a simple scarf. So in this post I would like to talk about the different styles of scarfs that can be found practically anywhere.
The infinity has no end. Therefore it slips on just like your favorite necklace. Allowing you to choose how low or how high you want it to hang.
This one is probably my favorite style of scarf. It can very easy slip into shawl mode if the weather takes a dip in temp. Pashminas tend to be larger in size than the next one.
The name says it all, its a rectangle shaped scarf. This kind of scarf can be found made of many different fabrics. Which makes this scarf versatile to all seasons.
Once again the name says it all, Its shaped like a square and works as a neck scarf or as an accessory on your handbag!
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Do you ever stop to wonder why one scarf is softer than the next?
Here's the 6 most common types of scarf fabric.
Cotton is a plant based material
Acrylic is a synthetic fabric
Viscose is a semi-synthetic fabric
Pashmina comes from pashmina goats
Cashmere also comes from goats.
Silk is created by insects undergoing metamorphosis.
Thavin & Marcob Team
Scarf designs have really changed over the last decade.
The designs are exquisite in their complexity or in the simplicity of their design
The Three Basic Designs are:
Embroidered usually means that it has patterns sown onto it..
( Its a new trend to have your initials placed on the end of your scarf)
Beaded scarves contain beads where you would normally find a fringe
(Pompoms are also trending in the place of beads)
Hand painted scarves are the best! These are normally one of a kind pieces that should be warn with pride. These special scarves always remind me to stop, be aware, and to enjoy the art that surrounds me!
Thavin & Marcob
Thavin & Marcob is a place where you are celebrated for being you!