Around the age of 10 all of my children started to grow this fear of looking dorky. They would purposely not do things because they feared for their image. It was funny and a little sad that they felt they were too big for baby activities. As the kids grew this fear stuck with them. I understand not wanting to look silly for fear of judgment, but I don't think that it is any way to run ones life.
MaKayla and I have been working side by side now for over two years. In the beginning she was afraid of looking silly. Although to much happiness to my soul not caring if others think you're a little dorky has rubbed off on her and now she just doesn't care.
We do tons of things that make us look completely silly.
Here are our Top Five.
1) Randomly break out in dance
Sometimes we need a little energy booster, a brain break, or we are just feeling the music. So we will break out into dance. That is on it's own a silly sight, but if you haven't made it out to our Oak Harbor Shop then you don't know that we have two very large windows. Which means in those moments when our bodies start to grove to the beat. Even though no one may be in the shop. There are still tons of spectators just beyond the glass. I have been looked at like I was a complete dork for dancing in an empty building alone, but I don't care. It gives both the person watching and I a laugh. Plus I get a nice little energy boost that will help me happily continue on with my work.
2) Falls and Flying Objects
A secret of mine is that I am pretty clumsy. I've fallen, stumbled, and tripped. Sometimes over various objects, but also from my own two feet. I have also accidentally flung objects across the store and at my face. This one admittedly is a little embarrassing when someone spies my clumsiness coming into light, but I still don't care if I look a little silly. It happens to everyone.
3) Out Loud Thinking
Sometimes it is just easier after hours of work to start to think out loud. It is so much easier to think out loud and see if the physical version of what you wanted is the direct translation of what your brain was imagining. We look silly, but our brains thank us.
4) Intense Starring
This is one that umbrellas a lot of different situations. Sometimes one of us will just zone out and intensely stare at nothing. One always looks a little silly when someone catches you then asks what you were looking at. Only to reply with a, " ummm nothing". and actually mean it. MaKayla and I can also be caught starring at our windows displays intensely when we first put them up. You can catch us on either side of the glass with a tilted head debating on how things should be placed for optimization.
5) Walking In and Out Repeatedly
We want our Oak Harbor location to be as customer friendly and comfortable as possible. We have also gone through a few upgrades since opening in June. Which means we have rearranged out shop quite a few times. Every time we do both MaKayla and I will walk out and back into the shop to get the overall feel of the changes. It's a process for us from which we will look completely silly for over an hour walking in and out of our own store just to asset the changes.
We totally get watched and starred at, but we just don't care if we look silly. It's a great feeling to know that my fearlessness of breaking out in dance when you just need a little break has rubbed off on my daughter. No one wants to feel or be judged by another. Especially when they might formulate a negative or hurtful opinion about you. However I also think that it is important to remember not to let others have power over your actions. We might look silly or crazy to others when they see us walking in and out of our own shop for an hour, but we don't care. It's how we think best and it's for our customers benefit.
Thavin & Marcob is a place where you are celebrated for being you!