As a woman, I feel that I have always felt some kind of pressure when it came to dressing. This is a feeling that has loomed over me since I was a young girl, but not something that I ever really openly talked about with anyone else. That was until I found myself having a conversation with my daughter and another mother-daughter duo. During our friendly chat, the mother made a comment about how she had every right to wear what she wants to wear, but couldn't help that even though a women entrepreneur felt like there was some mysterious guideline that she must follow when dressing. Never in my life have I had more of an "oh my gosh, me too" moment. This sparked a very interesting and empowering conversation between the four of us that I thought has such an important message I would share it with you too.
The Pressure Is Real
I can honestly say at each stage of my life I have felt some kind of underlying judgmental pressure when it came to my wardrobe. It didn't matter if I was wearing heels, flats, a blouse, or a tee. It didn't matter if there was puke from a baby on it, coffee, or if it had been freshly pressed. I could always feel onlookers silently pushing their judgments onto my outfit. My story never seemed to matter. I could have just taken care of a fussy baby or just walked out of a board meeting. Never did my back story matter, all that mattered was the now and present. My cover page if you will.
During the conversation, we had with the other mother-daughter duo. I realized that I was not the only one who felt that way. I couldn't believe that at points I felt maybe I was a little over paranoid or full of myself to think that complete strangers would have an opinion over what shoes I was choosing to wear that day. I also couldn't believe this pressure and judgment is common among women and is not something that is spoken on too often.
Don't Let Others Define You, Find Empowerment In The Negative
The people around you whether strangers or friends only have as much power over you as you allow them. It's okay to walk away free of judgments. It's okay to ignore those judgments around you. It's completely and utterly okay to just be you. You don't need permission from anyone. You don't need others to be okay with it. You just need to be okay with who you are, you need to be able to set your own boundaries, and to feel free to just be you.
Being You Is The Best You That You Can Be
Okay that title sounds like something I may have read in a Dr. Seuss book, and in all honesty, it just may have been, but its the perfect statement for this article.
You Are You
You Are Worthy
You Are Beautiful
You are Amazing
You have to power to walk away from the negative, from the judgments,
and you have the ability to limit the power others have over you.
Thavin & Marcob is a place where you are celebrated for being you!