This past week felt special and radiant with no major events on the calendar because it was full of everyday magic.
The concept of noticing everyday magical moments came to me on a trail run. Running is my main fitness activity and as my feet pound the trail I ponder. The act of running and the solitude helps me through dilemmas and gives me much needed release.
When I analyze a concept I have to chunk it into smaller pieces in order to understand it and teach it. As a coach, I have to take large problems and bust them up into manageable pieces. While thinking about my own happiness my thought pattern determined it is not large events that create the happy feeling. Instead, it is mini actions and the mindset I have about a situation which yields the euphoria. If I can recreate these mini actions that are personal to me, then every day happiness can be achieved.
According to Harvard Medical School, “In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.”
Gratitude and experiences over material possessions are key factors to happiness.
Let’s look at a couple big ideas and how to break down to the mini action.
Big Idea: Health and fitting into my jeans
Micro-action: Move every day at least 10 minutes
Additional mini action: Take the walk/run outside
Result: Extra Happy !
Big Idea: Nourishment
Micro-action to lead to the BIG CONCEPT: Good FOOD every day!
Additional mini action: Take the extra 15 minutes to buy from the local farmer’s market down the street. WHOLE FOODS when possible.
Result: Extra Happy!
Delicious food is important to me. Luckily, my husband is a great cook and takes great care of me in this way. A nice piece of fruit, your favorite sandwich, or a special drink when you have your lunch can make a difference in your attitude about fueling your body and the day itself.
Many years ago I worked with a woman whose lunches I was envious of every day. It was admirable the self-care she used to make her lunch special every day. She often packed some fresh fruit or small decadent dessert along with her sandwich. It was the type of lunch I would have traded for when I was in elementary.
Last week, my lunch made me think of my grandmother. Everything about grandmother memories are surrounded by food because she loved to cook and was excellent at it. Scrambled egg sandwiches are always comforting food as well as bologna and cheese with Miracle Whip! My bologna sandwich nourished me emotionally and physically. It kept my hunger at bay and also flooded me with memories of my childhood! What more can you ask for from lunch?
Now it is your turn:
Three Steps to Conjure Your Own Everyday Magic
1. Pay attention.
Pay attention to what perks you up. Is it a new podcast episode in your app? Your coffee ritual in the morning? Being in nature? Write them down and keep a list in your journal or your wallet.
2. Use your personal Happiness Bank to put yourself in their path more often.
3. SAVOR the moment and be grateful for the experience.
I believe there are also times there is just magic to be appreciated that require no action. You have to notice them and savor and appreciate them.
I feel every day magic in the eyes of children when they are reading. Books are magic!
I feel everyday magic in bookstores. There is magic in all the words contained within pages on shelves.
I feel every day magic in twinkle lights that zip of energy to your heart when you walk in the room. Light is connected to the nostalgia and memories of happy days and surprises for me.
I feel every day magic in moments of anticipation. When I am driving home and cannot wait to see my husband. The anticipation of a nice dinner where you get dressed up and go out...or stay in. The magic moment of seeing a loved one that you haven't seen for awhile. The moment you pick up someone from the airport.
I feel everyday magic when I am writing. Putting words to the page trying to get it "just right" is magic!
I feel everyday magic in the things that catch you off guard and make you smile. The effervescence emotion that emerges in a smile you cannot contain.
When do you feel magic?
Tammy Breitweiser is a writer and teacher who is a force of nature and woman of honor; seer of nuance; accidental inspirationalist; keeper of the little red doors, and conjurer of everyday magic who is busy writing short stories. A future Minnesotan temporarily hiding in Indiana, her poetry has been published in The Storyteller Magazine and her flash fiction in The Ninja Writers Monthly and Elephant Never. Her essay is published in the I Wrote it Anyway anthology. You can also connect with Tammy through @medium/@tammybreitweiser or Twitter @TLBREIT.
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