In my eyes, my group of friends are the absolute best people around. They are loveable, loyal, and bring so much joy to my every day that I can't imagine life without any one of them.
Although a thought or two can't help but to creep in, "What does it take to be a true friend and what characteristics should we be looking for when we are trying to decide if this new someone has the ability to a true friend?"
Today is friendship day! Which means there is no better day than today to try to answer such questions. Here are what I believe the ten best qualities that make a friend a true friend.
Trustworthiness is huge! I put it at the top of the list because for myself personally, I think it's the top number one thing I look for when making and maintaining true friendships. Allowing yourself to truly and fully trust another person can only come with time. As you allow your friend to see how much they can trust you, they will also show you how much you can trust them. In turn, emotionally crafting this unworldly colorful bond that only the two of you get to experience.
If you have a friend that supports you through the good and bad times then yes without a doubt you have found a true friend. You would be amazed at how many people will bail on you at first sight of trouble.
Love and respect go hand in hand. If someone loves you, they will freely give you the respect that you deserve. If they don't really love you, then respect isn't there. If you have a friend who shows you the respect you know you deserve as an individual, then don't doubt the love they feel for you. A true and lasting friend is a beautiful blend of the two.
A person who lies to you and still calls you friend is not a friend! I can not say that loud enough or enough times. A true friend will not lie to you. They will want what's best for you and they will want to be honest with you. They will want only the best and kindest things for you. Honesty is essential in any relationship, including friendship.
Someone who is going to be loyal to you is definitely friend material. You want someone in your life that's going to have your back, that will stand up with you, not against you. So look for that person who has the ability to be loyal because that trait found in a true friend.
We all have those days where all we need to do is vent. To be in a safe, freeing atmosphere where we can speak of our deepest darkest fears and our wildest dreams. These moments of need are why this trait right here made it onto the list. A true friend will always be available to listen.
Enjoy Spending Time With Each Other
With all these traits flowing around us, we actually have to enjoy spending time with them. Not everyone who shows the traits to you will necessarily fit into your life, and that's okay. It is a must to have the ability to have fun with them, to enjoy small moments as well as big ones.
Allows You To See Them For Who They Are
We each wear a different mask throughout our days. We have a professional mask, a mom mask, a sister mask, a friend mask, the list can go on and on. The important thing to take from this must-have trait is that we need someone who can accept all of who we are, no matter what mask you may be wearing at any given moment. We want our true friends to be able to see who we are with all of our flaws and all and still show all of the other traits.
Allowing someone to see all of you is truly a leap of faith. You never really know if you're going to be rejected or not, and that's a massive fear to conquer. When you do take this leap of faith and the person you choose to share yourself with is open and accepting of who you truly are inside and out, with no judgment. That right, there is the moment that you know you have a real friend for life.
We are not all perfect in any way. In fact we all tend to fail on the perfect scale because like I have said in the past, perfect is not real. So let go of perfect and look for the person who will forgive you. The person who can forgive and still love you still wants to friends in spite of your flaws is the truest of truest friends!
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