I love, love books! There are my biggest expense and joy in life. I actually spend more on books than I do on fashion pieces every year. Yes, it's true, for me there is nothing like a fantastic read. Although over the years as I have really harnessed my focus on Thavin & Marcob, my spare time for reading has progressively decreased. I find great joy in books and made the goal of reading at least one book for joy a month this year. While I have strayed away from it a tad bit, I have newly found that I do enjoy reading for a purpose.
Guilt Made Me Do It
Last year I felt really guilty when I would talk to others around me and they stated that they had just read this fantastic novel. One where the characters came alive, that it was a moving story, one of their new beloved reads. They would then ask what I read and my response would be oh I just finished this book on branding a small business. See not exciting to chat about unless you're looking for a fantastic read on that subject. As the year when on, I kept reading all these business books I felt like I could learn something from and all year long I felt out of touch with the book world that I so longingly wanted to be a part of if only I had more time on my hands.
That Was When I Decided To Read For Fun Again
I was feeling so out of place within my social circle that I decided to start reading for fun again. Which is how I came up with the goal of reading one novel for fun every month. I didn't think it would be a hard goal to accomplish, and I am always reading so it was a doable goal. Yet here we are 6 months into the new year, and I have not been able to get this accomplished, not even close. In fact, I haven't read a novel for fun in the last 8 weeks. I have a few sitting on the bookshelf that I have been meaning to get to.
I just haven't gotten there yet.
I Didn't Make My Goal But...
I didn't make my goal of reading a novel for fun every month. Which admittedly made me feel a little guilty. I mean I'm reading all the time anyway so why can't I read faster, do more to fit this in. It seemed like such a little thing and yet it wasn't and that's when it began. That's when I started to realize that there had been a change, a change in me.
For some reason, I decided that reading books on branding, and on business meant I was not reading for me. I wasn't reading for fun. I was just trying to accomplish my goals for my new business. I was trying not to fail, I was trying to grow, to learn how to do what it was I wanted to do. I'm not sure why I didn't see it sooner, I'm not sure why it took me so long to get here. Yet, I have come to realize that my book topics hadn't just changed over the last few years. I had changed. I'm different. I am reading for fun, I am choosing my topics the same way I choose my novels. My reading materials are all about me. It is exciting when I reading a book on branding and I can compare what I'm doing with what the author is suggesting, or if the author tells me something I didn't know. What I love the most is still the moment in the book when I connect with the author.
With novels, you connect with the author through the characters of the story. However with these new books, I'm reading, these new topics I'm discovering. I find myself connecting with the actual author. The sharing of trials fails, picking up oneself. The learning, the inspiration, the keep going attitude. It soothes my soul to know I'm doing okay, that they are right there with me in my world, in my everyday. I found my joy of reading again. It never went away, we just grew a little bit and I forgot to stop and notice it!
Here Is The Beginning Of My Summer Reading List
With this new found knowledge I decided to choose my books a little different this year. I've decided to reach for those that call to me and this new person I am and getting to know.
Now I don't have my whole summer list complete but I have ordered a few to start with and I'm sharing them with you guys!
The Ragged Edge Of The Night By Hawker, Olivia
Own Your Everyday By Dooley, Jordan Lee
Badass Your Brand By Silva, Pia
Unf*ck Yourself By Bishop,Gary John
Sold On Monday By McMorris, Kristina
Do you guys see it? These topics are so all over the place there is no real rhyme or reason, yet I'm excited to get to these books. This new me, I'm realizing is amazing. I love having the ability to grow as a person!
What books are you planning on reading this summer?
I'd love to discover a great read from you
Do you know what my worst habit is? It's attaching crazy deadlines to my goals.
It starts off sweet, I make a goal and let my heart soar free of all of the amazing outcomes that will be after accomplishing this one goal. From there my brain kicks in reminding me the faster it's done the faster I reap the rewards of that energizing feeling of checking things off a checklist. Once my brain says it's so, my mouth immediately tells the rest of the
Thavin & Marcob team that it is time to buckle down and get with the new program because we now have so much work to do and barely half the time to complete it.
While about 99% of the time we hit these deadlines with minimal squabble between us.
Not that long ago I realized that because of the pressure to complete and check off.
The love luster that I believe emulates from our work seems dimmed if not vacant.
We all deeply love our work and have come to understand that the finished product is not the only important thing. One of the most important things in our opinions is that underlying unassuming love feeling that we try our damndest to weave into everything that we do. We are passionate about our work and not only want you to feel that but pick up on that passion and see why we love what we do so much.
It's Friday, the last Friday in Spring in fact! There is no need to waste a perfectly beautiful Spring weekend with blunders that can easily be avoided. So here are my
5 Downtime Blunders To Avoid.
If you're curious what we ended up doing was walking away from our deadlines completely. There was no reason we couldn't push them off a few days. So that's just what we did. The first day we all went our separate ways for some much-needed space. Day two we piled into the car and visited some of our local favorites. When day three came around we all agreed it was time to give household chores like laundry a little TLC. Before we knew it when day four rolled around we were all fresh and ready to hop back on and conquer our goals.
Avoiding these blunders won't garentee you a happy life,
but they are definitely found in the recipe for one.
#1 LEAVE WORK AT WORK
It's easy for a lot of us to leave the office, enjoy a nice dinner, change into sweats, cozy up on the couch to our loving pup, and pull out the computer to only go back to work. A change of scenery, a full belly, and a furry companion do not mean that you are refreshed so you should go back to work. When you clock out, stay clocked out, no if, ands, or buts. You need to be making sure that you are giving your brain and body time to relax. You might be bored at first and trust me I've been there. Sitting on my couch at 7 pm thinking, well I'm not doing anything so might as well work. That is until I think of all of the productive and self-care things I could be doing instead. Like yoga or Netflix binging. As soon as I give myself just the right amount of still time. My brain floods with all of the fun things I could be doing with my free time.
#2 LEAVE YOUR PHONE BEHIND
Metaphorically speaking because most of us are going to want to snap a few memories or make sure you're reachable in case of an emergency. Work obligations are not the only thing that might distract you and pull your focus from living in the moment. Social media can easily swallow you whole if you allow it to. I know first hand how tempting it is to want to side your screen to see if you have any new notifications, but if you can resist this urge for just a few good hearty laughs to sneak there way in. You'll re-remember the magic that lies in genuine in-person conversations.
Life is busy, it's crazy, it's unexpected, and it stops for no woman. Which is probably why a lot of us clean just enough to get by. Don't lie, we have all at some point or another piled and piled or random misplaced shit into a room because it completely escaped your mind that someone was coming over and just like any other human. You do not want them to see your weeks worth of dirty laundry, so we stuff and stack, and brace ourselves for impact when they leave and you have to go re-open that linen closet. While sometimes moments like that are unavoidable, it might be possible to keep your meeting to a minimum both at home and in the office. If you actively try to stay somewhat organized. I know that I work better in chaos, but only if there is meaning to my chaos. Each pile or squished circle of clutter has a title of what they are and what purpose they serve. Having even this style of organization helps me to breathe easier and keeps me from becoming overwhelmed or wasting time freaking and stressing out especially when those busy days come around the corner.
When you're at work you typically have a strict of prior put in place schedule that you follow. Five days of this can feel caging and limiting. Which is why I believe spontaneity to be one of the most powerful tools life has to offer. Give yourself the self-love to just let go and live. Explore, connect, and adventure. Kick those day planners to the curb and sail away.
You're in charge of the day, the day is not in charge of you!
#5 BEING YOU
It's not fake, it's a fact. The professional you is different from the at home you. Being a professional for so many hours a day for so many days is exhausting. Creating and having clear and concise boundaries that enable you to easily switch over to the chill on my couch in sweats yelling at the tv when you know they shouldn't walk into that room is more important than you may initially think. Having time to just be you in all your glory is a must that should never be pushed aside or passed on.
Don't turn down the importance of downtime.
Avoid those menacing downtime blunders and get going
with the relaxation that your beautiful self deserves.
Share with us your Downtime Blunders or Triumphs
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I am guilty, of what you ask? Allowing toxic people to take hold and run with my life however they see fit. It's a secret of mine that I have shamelessly hidden under my bed, but that stops now. For too long I have idly stood by while toxic people have used my life as a pawn in some game for their enjoyment. This has been a reoccurring problem throughout my entire life. From my younger naïve years before I knew what the word toxic meant, to just a few days ago when I felt their behavior was somehow acceptable. While I am not a pro at spotting a toxic person. I am getting better at walking away from not just a bad situation, but one that I know will never improve or grow with time.
What Does a Toxic person Look like?
When we talk about toxic people we are in truth referring to the behavior of individuals. It's the individual's behavior that is toxic, not the actual person. The majority of people who display toxic behaviors work certain roles acting them out based on the situation presented before them.
For example, it is not uncommon for a toxic person to respond to a situation in the role of a victim, a bully, or maybe even a perfectionist. The goal is for them to create an emotional response from those around them that provides them with their needed emotional response at that particular moment. In other words, it is possible that a toxic person will flip a situation and make it about them.
Thing That Toxic People Do
Toxic people tend to believe that every moment, every situation, every encounter is solely about them. If they find that they are not the only person at the center of attention. They will fight desperately to turn the spotlight onto them and only onto them.
Interacting with a toxic person has the affect of making you feel like you are on a never-ending emotional roller coaster. Once you become well versed in toxic people. You will find that there are stand out character traits that serve as warning signs.
RED FLAG - Beyond the fact that toxic people tend to flourish in DRAMA. There is also the fact that they will not accept "No" as a stand-alone answer. In fact, they will push for more information, for that something extra so that they can turn the situation back onto them. They want to find any way that they can cast themselves into the role of a victim, bully, or perfectionist.
What Toxic People Do To You
Toxic people are very good at making things be about them all of the time. Day in and day out, they are full of certainty that they can create situations in which they can play out their desired spotlight roles.
It is extremely important that you remember the actions of toxic people are not about you at all. It is about them trying to gain an emotion that will feed their needs. When you are in the thick of it, we don't always see it for what it is. We may start to feel like it is us. That we are not doing anything right like we are the problem. Before you know it the self-doubt that suddenly develops in your mind is justified and acceptable within your life.
Therefore if you find yourself:
-Feeling emotionally or mentally drained, you may be interacting with a toxic person.
-If you find that you are disregarding your own personal values and beliefs then you may be interacting with a toxic person
-If you feel like you need to hide your true self from an individual. So that a dramatic scene is not played out right before your eyes, you may be involved with a toxic person.
-If you find yourself going through the motions of life, feeling disconnected from the world, emotionally checking out, then you might be involved with a toxic person.
Toxic People In The Everyday
In a perfect world when dealing with a toxic person. You can let out a sigh of relief, smile, and walk away for good. Although when reality smacks you in the face you realize that perfect is not real and so a perfect world is sent to be just a distant hope in our overwhelmed minds. For some of us, you might find that the toxic person in your life is someone that you can not completely move on from. They may live in your household, they may be family, they may even be a part of your work environment. Since this is the case for most of us. There are healthy tactics that you can utilize to better your relationship and overall quality of life when interacting with a toxic person.
Creating distance is probably the most important thing to start creating between yourself and the toxic person. This can take on the form of emotional distance, physical distance, or in some cases both.
Creating and setting clear decisive boundaries with toxic people is a hugely daunting task, but one that is completely necessary. By creating boundaries for yourself, you are telling the toxic person that this is your line in the sand. If they cross it then you are no longer engaging with them.
Your emotional response is what feeds a toxic person. Remember they are playing what roles are necessary. So that you and your responses make them feel important, validated, and in the spotlight. Therefore it is important to remember the high value that is placed on your emotional responses. Controlling your reactions, allowing yourself to desensitize during these highly intense emotional occurrences will only benefit you in the long run.
You Need A Safe Place
You're going to need a safe place to decompress. Each interaction with a toxic person takes its toll emotionally and mentally. It's common for an interaction with a toxic person to leave you feeling completely and utterly exhausted. Which is why it is so important for you to have a place where you feel extremely emotionally safe for you to recoup from your encounter. It is also wise for you to have a fabulous support system. Let others know about your experiences. Sometimes just saying it out loud allows you to see the situation for what it is. Which is blankly put a problem that needs to be solved. This doesn't mean you're trying to fix the toxic person, that's not something that you can do, and it is not your responsibility to accomplish. What needs to be done is fixing and taking charge of how you react. Sitting in a safe place surrounded by loved ones talking about things are learning out how to best react is the surest way you are going to find that emotional and mental peace that you so desperately want back.
Knowing who you are, what you value, and what you truly believe in are going to be the foundation that you fall back onto when analyzing why it is you react the way you do when dealing with a toxic person. We all change through our different stages of life, so don't fear to look at these questions and think, "I have absolutely no clue who I am". Even if you have changed, the feeling you get deep within your gut when something is wrong will never go away. If it feels wrong, just walk away. If you have to convince yourself to stay, odds are you are not supposed to be there. Never forget that you are Immaculate, Amazing, Beautiful, and Damn Right Deserving of a Fabulous Life. Take no shit from toxic people because you are worth so much more!
Hello, everyone, and thanks for reading this article!
Let’s start by introducing ourselves, if we may…
We are Jerome and Lucy – a married Canadian couple of Asian descent who are fitness enthusiasts, sports aficionados, and amateur game designers (when we have the time!). By day, we actually both work in the medical profession (in medical research and in medical records, respectively), and although we are now in our 40s, we do have fond memories of our youth when so many of us were coming up with wacky game/contest ideas on the fly! While one of us (Lucy) is more spontaneous and more likely to come up with random ideas, the other (Jerome) is more detail-oriented and more inclined toward expanding upon those said ideas. As each of us have lived - for long periods of our lives – very close to oceans and beaches, it perhaps is not totally surprising that one of the ideas that we have recently developed (and have seen gain some traction, too) is a couples’ sport/game/fitness challenge that takes place in water!
So, that brings us to the couples’ sport that we created - Ovasinax (pronounced like “Oh-Veigh-Sin-Axe”, and named via a Swedish phrase because important advice came to us from Sweden during the game’s conception)…
Ovasinax is a new tandem sport for couples that involves three male-female teams (at a time) competing against each other in a sprint foot race within a flat-floored shallow swimming pool. Coordination between team partners is important, and Ovasinax also tests the athleticism of each member of a team (couple) in different ways within the competitive environment. In simple terms, each Ovasinax contest consists of three phases for each team (couple) –
It should be noted that there is also a Beach Version (apart from the already-described Pool Version), but the Beach Version is extremely rare and can only be played on 2-3 beaches in the world, as far as we know. Also noteworthy is the fact that the female partner in each team (in any true Ovasinax competition) must not weigh less than two-thirds of the weight of her male partner.
As to how Ovasinax can be played by anyone who wants to do so, there are certain challenges that need to be taken care of, first…
With regards to Ovasinax competitions in general the main challenges are –
Regarding the future of Ovasinax…
What happens next, regarding Ovasinax is a bit hard to predict at present because of the hurdles (as described above) that prevent it from being played in many swimming pools, and also because we, as amateur designers, are not really in a position to dedicate more towards the growth of this game. However, we are not looking to profit through Ovasinax in any way, either; so, we would have no objection to someone else profiting through it without us being involved, as long as the game’s name and rules are maintained. There is no doubt that an Ovasinax tournament would contain an immense amount of fun and thrills; so, we do look forward to that. And, as per the feedback that we have received (along with some educated projections), four avenues that would be great for Ovasinax to take (concurrently or separately) on its way to the next level are –
If you would like to read more about Ovasinax and/or connect with us, that would be great…
The most relevant Ovasinax-related links are –
We would like to express our gratitude to the amazing Raquel Clavette (and the rest of the Thavin & Marcob team) for giving us this opportunity to share some information about Ovasinax! And, perhaps, there could even be a “Thavin & Marcob Tournament Of Ovasinax”, one day (where the top prize will be - the “Raquel Clavette Trophy”)!
Somedays I just have to tell myself that I am beautiful, that I'm loved, that I am right where I am supposed to be. There are days that even though I may say it out loud, or may even feel like I know it, the truth is that every day is not always perfect. There are days that are harder than others. Those days, those hard days are the days I turn to my top 11 affirmations.
Do you guys have a list of affirmations that you utilize on those shitty days?
Today I'm sharing some of mine. If you don't have any yet feel free to use mine!
1. You are Loved
Somedays when I'm being extremely hard on myself I have to take that moment to check out. To walk away and remind myself that I am loved. Not just by myself but by those who choose to be there through the good and bad.
2. You look Amazing
I have off days where I quite literally can not find anything in my closet that will work. I feel lost if my outfit is off, therefore, that is why my personal style is important to me. I mean I don't necessarily take it to extremes and dress to the 10's every day but I do require that I feel good in my clothes. However, on those days where things feel off and I feel like nothing looks good, that is when I turn to this affirmation.
3. You can Do this
The paths in our lives are never straight lines. In fact, I always tell the kids that you are here..... your goal is here. There are a billion in one ways to get from point A to Point B. You just have to find the one that's best for you. That's it, keep trying, keep going, you can do it, you have the ability to get there.
4. I am Enough
Social Media is full of photos sharing all the good moments in peoples lives around the world. And yes, there are times when I do find that I'm envious of the lives I think they lead. That's the crucial thought though I only see the good so I think it must be amazing. That's when I have to remind myself that I am enough. My life in pictures looks just as amazing as everyone else around the world.
5. My Success is Defined by Me
I decide what I see as successful or not. Others have their own version of what success is, and it is okay if I don't fit into there box. In fact, I don't want to be in their box. I want to strive to meet my goals be them big or small within my own timeframe, within the timing that works for me.
6. My Mistakes are Learning Moments
I fuck up all the time. I continuously take a right when I should have taken a left, and sometimes yep I have to make a U-turn and go back to where I started. That's okay my mistakes are learning moments. It's a time to grow as a person.
7. Failing is not an Option
I have a tendency to start off strong, yet as the journey becomes longer, and the obstacles seem to pile up right at my front door I can feel myself getting tired. I want to stop, I want to move on, away from whatever goal I'm trying to get to. I wish it would all just stop. The journey is too hard, too long, it's too everything. And yet I can hear this small little voice in the back of my mind its a whisper at first. In fact, it's so faint I'm unable to make it out clearly. Yet as the time passes, it gets louder, stronger, more forceful and I hear it clear as day within my mind
Failure is not an Option.
It's the boost I need to keep going, it allows a sweet burst of energy to enter my mental world and extends into the physical.
8. I can Conquer my Fear
Fear is this uncontrollable feeling. It always starts off small, and yet it just keeps growing and growing. Unchecked fear has the ability to stop you in your tracks. It causes doubt, insecurity, and hesitation, and or inaction. It's these times that I have to repeat over and over to myself that I can conquer my fear, my fear will not stop me, it can not stop me.
9. I'm in Charge of My Destiny
I have the ability to change my path at any moments notice. I can decide that the way I'm traveling is not headed in the right direction for me. Those moments are the ones where I pull out this affirmation. I'm in charge of my destiny, I can change my mind, and most importantly I'm in charge of my destiny.
10. I have the Answer
There are many moments in one's life where they feel so overwhelmed by the situation that they are in that they become lost in the abyss that is the problem. Those moments are where I reach for this affirmation. "I have the answer" reminds me to stop worrying about the issue, to not focus on the noise that is surrounding me at that moment. "I have the answer" reminds me that I can find the answer, I can solve this problem and I can not only work my way through it I can conqure this obstacle.
11. I'm Doing My Best
I don't have to perfect all of the time I can just be me. And just being me is me acknowledging to myself that I am doing my best, and that's okay. Perfect is overrated anyways.
Share your affirmations with us @ThavinMarcob
I am admittedly a little deceptive, how you ask? My I know what I'm doing façade is cleverly cloaking my dorky side. I trip over my own two feet constantly, I spill anything my hands grab a hold of while wearing anything white, and I say the craziest things before I even think about how they will sound out loud.
It's Friday and every Friday needs a good full body chuckle. I thought maybe I could provide one to you by sharing with you some of my latest funny moments.
It's A Conference Call … ?
During our nightly chat one night before bed, my special guy asked if anything exciting happened. Here's our conversation...
Special Guy: "Did anything exciting happen today"?
---I am prepped and ready to answer his question tonight because I, in fact, did have something exciting happen that I wanted to share.
Me: "Ohhh I asked the kids to show me how to have a three-way".
Special Guy: "What"?
Me: "Yeah, I figured if I could do it in middle school there has to be a way to have one now".
Special Guy: "What The Fuck"!
Me: "Well it's not like I really needed to know how to do one, but it's cool to know how, right"?
---At this point I'm a little confused as to why he's reacting the way he is. I mean I was really excited about it and I am not understanding why he sounds so off putting to my exciting news.
Special Guy with a huge sigh says: "Raquel, what are we talking about"?
Me: "My new phone, now I can talk to two kids at once. You know a three-way".
Special Guy: "No, that's not a three-way. Please don't say that out loud again. It's called a conference call".
Me: "Are you sure? I thought a conference call was with 4 or more people"?
Special Guy with a chuckle in his voice: "No, it's all the same. They are just called conference calls".
All I can say is at least I know what they are called now and thank goodness I was not having that conversation with anyone else other than my husband, and of course all of you.
WHAT Is Under My Bed !?!?
My entire life there has always been some kind of light on during the night while I sleep. Whether it is a street lamp, a bathroom light, or the tv's light. There has just always been a light on while I sleep, so now irrationally I am scared to sleep in the dark. I just can't do it, don't think that I ever will be able to. This is of importance because the other night one of my kids and I watched a scary movie together. While to most it probably wasn't that scary, it sent chilling fears down my entire body when the movie concluded. In response, I had a nightmare that night. I can't recall any of the details of the dream, but it was spooky enough to wake me up in a panic. My heart was pounding, sweat dripping down my forehead, and my throat was drier than imaginable. My first thought was that I needed a glass of water asap. Tossing the blankets aside I swing my feet over the edge of the bed beginning to step my foot down onto the floor. Only to feel something horrifyingly make contact on the back of my ankle. It's official I just made contact with that monster that lies underneath my bed! Ohhhh, have I never retreated faster into my bed than in that moment. Peering down to look, I see IT in the dark swiftly pull back under my bed before I can make what out IT is. A shriek leaves my mouth, my brain is processing all possible outcome within milliseconds and none are of the happy nature. Now crouched on my bed with a pillow in hand ready to whack whatever IT is. My youngest with sleep in his eyes and annoyance in his voice walks into my pitch black room. Asking what in the world am I doing, to which I inform him in distress that there is something under my bed. Braver than I will ever be he reaches under the frame to pull whatever IT is out and into the light. Prepping myself to see a rat or something, my heart happily comes down form racing a hundred miles a minute. When what emerges is my dog, contently covering my son's face in kisses. I did feel like a dork in that moment, but she has two beds and has never slept under anything. Why of all nights does my dog choose to find a new sleeping spot? It is an incredibly hilarious story to tell, but oh my at that moment I have never been more ready to run for my life. Thank goodness my son was there to stop me from whacking my poor sleepy dog!
I hope my latest funny moments brought a smile to your face and made you laugh a little on this fabulous Friday.
Have any funny moments?
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Do you have a group of besties?
You know the amazing people I'm talking about. The ones who stand by you through thick and thin. The ones who have seen you ugly cry your eyes out and still show up the next day to make sure you're feeling okay.
Ask this question to a youngster and I bet they will provide you with a mile long list. When my youngest was in grade school, he would excitedly introduce me to his best friends all of the time. I thought it was great that he was such a social butterfly, however, the hilarity of the encounter came in when I would ask my son their name and he would stand there stumped. Having absolutely no clue what their name was even though they had been playing for hours upon hours.
I am sure all of us adults can agree that making friends as an adult is a lot different than it was when you were 10. As you experience more and more life, you change. It happens to everyone unexpectedly and all at once. When change and growth happen sometime the people that surround you change too. Some you drift from, some you have to remove, some you grow closer to, some become so much a part of your life that you are not you without them. Life is crazy, amazing, and complex. As you grow to understand that the more value you place on friendships increases. Which is why I believe adult friendship to be a lot harder to find, grow, and keep.
Now begs the question of,
"How do you make a new best friend"?
Don't let your thoughts create intimidating thoughts letting that fear run rapidly over your heart before you get the chance to step outside your comfort zone. It might seem vastly different from your childhood, but the step is all the same just with a slight twist now. As a child, you met your friends in common areas like the park or school. Look at what places you frequent, coffee houses, gyms, farmers markets. If you're in the same place chances are you already have at least one thing in common. Take that and initiate a conversation with someone. I know it's scary especially because you don't know if they are busy or in a mood. Rejection hurts and feels embarrassing. Although if you think about all of the encounters you brushed off when you were in a mood or busy it's really not that big of a deal. I know for myself the majority of the time I thought nothing rude of the person. I just needed space to deal with life. There is also something quite flattering about a complete stranger deciding to start a conversation with you. So don't be apprehensive because you fear rejection or that they will think you are weird. Just a hello is all you need to start your path on making a new friend. Once there if the connection feels real and full of spark. Take a leap of faith and ask to do something together sometime. Don't over think it, a cup of coffee at your local coffee house is a great suggestion. Go with something you know the both of you will feel comfortable doing. Something that is not going to require excessive planning that way there is no pressure. The calmer the friend date is the more likely the two of you are going to let down you're guarded grown up walls and be open to just having a good time with a potential new best friend.
After your first friend date, you should have a good idea if you and your potential new bestie really connect. Once you're there all that's left to do is to better get to know each other by sharing your amazing personality.
Besties are a hard find, but when you do find one. You'll be exceptionally grateful that they walked into your life changing it for the better. Helping you make memories, laughter, and jokes that will last each of you a lifetime.
Go on a friend date recently?
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It's finally June, that means long warm sunny days spent outdoors adventuring and sharing laughter with friends. It also means that our boutique windows get a nice new fresh update with a meaning.
I am so excited to announce to you our June Retail Windows With Meaning
"Confidently Climb Into Your Own"
This month is all about celebrating and embracing
your very own unique fashion sense.
Buying Just To Buy
When you're feeling down sometimes there is no better remedy than retail therapy. There is no escape like flinging yourself into racks and racks of sparkly new clothes and shoes. Although if I am being honest sometimes I just don't like the fashions that are hot for a season. Phrases like, "Why would...", "Who could...", and Maybe I would.." roll through my mind when my hands brush against a fashion that I am unsure of. With the knowledge of knowing it is all the rage on Instagram, I purchase it even though deep down I know it is not a fashion for me. I mean it's retail therapy, it doesn't work if you don't buy just to buy?
I know I am not the only one out there that feels this way. We buy to buy because that is what we are told, taught, and pressured to do. Why do it though? I don't want it, I don't need it and more importantly, I know that it is not me.
Who I Am
I am who I am and I am very okay with that. My clothing and accessories are a way of self expression. To not only the world, to those arounds me, but also to myself as well. My take on fashion is not just a way to stay in trend or stylish. It is a way for myself to express my individuality proudly.
Regardless of what you wear on whichever the day of week it is. From yoga pants to a sexy black mini dress. Each fashion choice is an extension of your fabulous personality that is magically unique to you and our individualism.
We all continually return to this time in our lives where we are completely and utterly board out of our minds with our wardrobes. No matter how many different combinations of an outfit you try on. It's all just the same boring stuff that you have been wearing for years. Yes, each fashion choice is an extension of your marvelous personality, but when a closet outcries in disinterest, it means you have changed. We all change, all of the time, it's never-ending and never stopping. That's why I wouldn't be caught dead in the clothes and accessories that I used to rock back when I was 18. At the time it was a perfect outlet for myself to express to the world who I was. While I value those years and crazy outfits. I am that version of me anymore. So my wardrobes changed. It changed to tall black boots, form-fitting mid-length dresses, and wool sweaters. This is the me now. Therfore when I expierence 60 outfit changes on a single Monday morning may feel like a fashion funk. It is simply me letting go of the old me and getting ready to embrace the new fabulous me that I was meant to be.
This June our retail windows are all about you climbing straight out of that fashion funk and not only embracing the new you but celebrating this glorious new chapter. It took me a while to realize this, but there is a difference between buying new fashion trends because it is what I am told is in season. To purchasing new fashions because they are how I want to express my individualism. Yes, leaps of faith in fashion are a great asset. At the end of the day, we believe that it is not only important to know your unique style but to celebrate it. Embrace your fashion sense regardless of if you think it is plain, boring, or unfitting because it's who you are and there is no shame in being who you are and rocking the clothes that make you feel the most confident.
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Faith is defined as confidence or trust in a person or thing. When we each hear the word faith most of our brains instantly jump to religion before any other words are spoken. Yet, even in its definition faith is not strictly speaking of religion. I believe everyone needs a little faith, not a religion, a god, or a higher power necessarily, but the confidence or trust in a person or thing.
Faith In One's Self
Our lives are spent trying to be the best that we can be. We continually strive for different goals and for the best life that we can each imaginably achieve. In order to keep going and reaching for our best life, it is ultimately the faith, we have within ourselves that makes the difference. If we keep trying to move forward but allow the fear of the journey to interfere with that faith we have within ourselves then the chances of us getting to where we want to go become thinner and thinner. Faith in one's self is the thing that turns and pushes things into our favor. Faith that we can get back up when we fall. Faith that we can dust ourselves off. It's this that takes us closer and closer to the goals we have.
Faith In Others
When my special guy says he loves me how do I know this to be true? When I meet a friend for lunch and she says have a fantastic day how do I know this to be true? Do they really mean it or are they just parroting the safe social accepted phrases that they think I want to hear? It's faith. I have faith that my guy is telling me the truth, so its true, I have faith that my friend truly wants me to have a good day, so there it is TRUTH. Supporting those around you is an easy thing to say in social situations, probably even private conversations between two people yet its faith that keeps these relationships going. It is faith that allows you to believe the other person and its faith that allows your relationships to grow. Even with children, remember I have 5. They all have different personalities and they have all grown into 5 distinct individuals. These individuals are not necessarily people I would connect with on a personal level if I was out looking for new connections within the community. Yet, I have faith that we will be able to continue our ever growing relationship because of love. Its a faith, once again that helps us move forward.
Faith In The Everyday
Moments both large and small happen billions of times throughout the day. Some we recognize as amazing and some we just see as routine. Yet there is faith in the everyday. We have faith that these moments will happen, whether we realize it or not. We have faith that the day will bring what it always brings and we have faith that we will be able to work through the struggles the day brings us.
Faith In The Future
Every time we make plans we are putting faith into our futures. We have faith that the day will come, we have faith that the road we are on will lead it to that destination we are hoping for. Our faith in ourselves is a faith we share in the future.
Faith means many things to all of us. The truth is only you can determine how you're going to utilize your faith. Only you can decide to have faith in those around you as well as yourself. I know that it may sound easy to do, yet it is something we all struggle with. It's hard to know if you're making the right decisions now or if you made the right decisions several years ago. Yet if the faith in yourself is strong, you are also opening the door to allowing yourself to forgive yourself for the failings you may have experience in the past, present, and in the future.
Did anyone else hear the song "Faith" by George Micheal
playing in your mind while reading this?
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