Roughly two week ago we published a blog article called
The Confines Of Our Comfort Zones. This blog really inspired me to take a hard look within and evaluate whether I simply do not want to do something or if I actually do, but am just too scared to step out of my beloved comfort zone.
This thought process combined with an eyebrow conversation lead me to saying, "You know what, let's just do it". I am curious about brow tinting and while it might scare me a little I am intrigued enough to know that the fear steams from it being just slightly out of my comfort zone.
A Little Insight To My Brows and I...
Day to day I am makeup free. Being a mom of five I found that being so was just the easiest and most efficient in a morning routine. As my children have established their independence I have started to slip back into the world of beauty. Last July I tried the trend of contouring. This March I decided to tackle the craze for bolder better brows and tried the method of eye brow tinting.
To be honest I had a very vague idea of what was happening and what the outcome would be. My brows are pretty thin in todays brow standards, they are also light in color and do not really frame my face as the brows of today are meant to. With this knowledge let's turn our attention to the term and practice of Brow Tinting. Which is to my understanding is the process of dying your brows with a pigment that is intended to darken your brow hairs. Through this process one should receive darker brows that provide for better contrast to your face.
Phoenix Antoinette Clark
Phoenix was amazing at answering all of my questions, as well as verbally guiding me through the process as she was proceeding. I highly appreciated this aspect of her service because I was pretty nerves and apprehensive about the whole experience. Her willingness to share and to help me be in the know definitely helped to relieve some of my nervous energies.
Here are some key facts that she shared.
What Is Brow Tinting?
What To Expect
My Brow Tinting Process
My Take Away
As a whole I love my experience with Phoenix she was incredibly personable and more than willing to share her knowledge with me. Which I found to be a great factor in limiting my nerves. With these wonderful traits and skills aside I have to admit I personally did not like the way my eye brows looked from the tinting. Here are my reasons as to why this was probably a one time experience for me.
1) It's a little funny, but for a good chunk of my life I have been under the impression that I have black hair. However last summer at the hands of a great hair stylist I found out that my hair is dark brown. Approximately two weeks before I booked my appointment with Phoenix I dyed my hair black. Remember now that I am a natural girl. It didn't register in either MaKayla's or I's brain that she would match my brows to my current hair color. So when I sat up and looked in the mirror. I'll admit I was taken aback that my slimmer light brown brows where now fuller black brows. It was more of an intense change to what I had envisioned because I imagined deeper brown brows not black. While yes a color miss can not be to blame for brow tinting all together. With my everyday routine being makeup free. I did feel a subtle pressure to put on a face because it felt like my brows were ready to go, but my face didn't get the message. This was a feeling I did not like because when I do wear makeup. It is not because I feel like I have to. It is simply because I want to. It is possible that with a lighter shade I might not experience this feeling, but for the time being I think I will further expand my brow adventures into pomades and pencils.
Get To Know Phoenix
Why Do You Do What You Do?
Phoenix knows first hand how femininity can be broken down and stolen from women in male dominated fields. Her drive and her passion is helping women enhance their natural beauty.
If there was one thing you feel others should know, what is it?
Know not only the products you use at home, but also the ones your esthetician wants to use. Don’t let anyone screw you over, it's your face. Don't be afraid to ask questions and be informed.
Where Can We Find You?
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One last question: Can Henna cause damage?
Box products and or non true henna could result in hair loss. There are certain chemicals that can be found that when mixed with profession grade products creates a bad chemical reaction resulting in hair lose or severe damage. KNOW what true henna is…it’s mud anything other is not. Do not use anything other than true henna.
This month we have been celebrating our failures. For every fail is valuable and irreplaceable. They teach you lessons and give you the opportunity to grow into a more knowledgeable person. If a fail can give you all that, why shouldn't it be celebrated? Here at Thavin & Marcob we think that no matter the fail, it is still deserving of some recognition because it in some way helped to shape you into the unique amazing person you are today. Throughout this month I have shared all sorts of fails with you. I thought that today would be a great day to recap those fails because while they each suck independently. They do still deserve my praise because I love who I am and these failures helped to get me here.
I in no way, shape, or form am a perfect human being. I have my flaws and bad habits. While I do not love every imperfection about myself. I deeply value each at the end of every day because they have helped shape me into the person I am at this moment.
The business world is scary and tough as hell. There is some much information that you need to know, that will help you become more successful, that will save you in the end, and that will make your life more easier when you clock out. Although I have learned time and time again that it takes failures to not only get the answers you need, but to know the questions you should be asking.
Perfection is not real no matter how hard you try, you will always be a perfectly imperfect woman and that is okay. Mistakes as a parent are going to happen. They are in reality absolutely unavoidable. Those little things that I consider mistakes in my child's developmental years are the moments that I believe held a large role in making them into the person they are today and in case you don't know. I love my children with my entire heart and then some. I think that they are each amazing individuals capable of doing incredible things and none of that would be if I did slip up every now and again. Like, letting my youngest know I'm Santa.
Our red planes in our storefront represented our failures this month. I truly enjoyed sharing a few of my favorite learning moments with all of you guys this March. Your support and love is amazing and truly does inspire us to be more, to learn more, and to grow as a business owner as well as individual.
What are some of your fails that deserve to be celebrated?
We would love to know what shaped you into the amazing person you are today.
When I was growing up I always wanted to live by the beach. Even as an adult it was the one thing I always wanted. It was that one dream that never faded as the years passed. The beach has just always been a special place to me. As I have grown and lived life I find that the warm safe feeling I feel when at the beach only grew as my children did.
I have so many fond irreplaceable memories from the beach that I will forever cherish. For instance, my husband proposed to me at my favorite beach.
All of our children have spend countless hours amongst the waves building sand castles and running along the waters edge.
Over the years I have discovered that if you let life swallow you up whole, it will. I have learned that no matter how much effort it may seem like you have to make or how selfish it may feel in the moment. Taking time for oneself to simply be without any obligations or expectations is truly an important aspect to life that should never be looked over.
The beach for me is that spot. I find the chilling winds, crashing waves, and the squawks of the seagulls to bring out an inner sense of peace within myself. The beach has always been my happy place and the years of fond family memories have only fortified it as my #1 favorite place in the world.
What is your happy place?
Is there an activity you like to do to break free from life for a few moments?
We would love to know what makes you so amazingly unique.
Most of everyone identifies productivity as accomplishing tasks directly related to work. Which I'll agree is my typical frame of mind. Although I started to think, do the building blocks of what it takes to get you to your most efficient self not count? If a good morning stretch helps to reign in my thoughts for an efficient work day then why not consider it productive towards my job.
Here are six things that might not directly relate to work productivity. However, I believe they play such a relevant and helpful role that I believe they should be.
Breakfast, Lunch, and Every Snack
I am completely useless without food, as I am sure you are. Food not only fuels my thoughts, but powers myself up with enough energy to turn into a complete power house efficiently and productively working through all of the days obstacles.
Never under estimate the value in a good stretch and steady calm breathing. I love to do a little yoga here and there throughout my week. I find that it helps to restress and calm myself. In turn establishing a fresh at ease mind for my ideas and thoughts to roam around in. A stormless mind makes the creative and capable work flow freer to my laptop.
Day Dreaming helps to fuel my imagination with endless inspirational ideas. While some of the ideas I pitch to the Thavin & Marcob team might be a little off centered. Day Dreaming when my brain feels the need to really does help myself to bring some great ideas to the table. In the moment I might have a happily glazed over look within my eyes. Which seems incredibly unproductive. I believe in reality it is actually quite when it pertains to overall productivity and success.
Everyone knows that building schedules take you further down the road to accomplishing tasks and reaching goals. I find schedules to be tremendously useful when it come to my productivity level.
There is never a brain break that is never unwanted or unneeded in my book. Whether it is to collect my thoughts, ease my mind, allow is to sore, or to give it a metaphorical pat on the pat each brain break helps to reset my work mode for a power house hour.
Proper hydration throughout the day is very important. I find that the more on point I am with my hydration the more work and creative ideas I can produce for Thavin & Marcob. If water sips lead to completed projects then those little trips to the water cooler should count as a productive task.
If it leads to productively then why not count it as productive. Let's give credit where credit is due. What are some of the little things that help you to be more productive at work?
We would love to know more about your unique personality.
This month we are celebrating our failures because we believe them to be a very important and valuable part of each and every journey we travel. Today I would like to highlight some of the mom fails I have experienced
When you're a mom their is no off switch, no pause button. You are a mom 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 12 months a year for life. It's a time consuming incredibly demanding job. Where everyone is quick to criticize and offer their opinion. There are few thank yous, the hugs of undoubtable love disappear over night, and the feeling of being taken for granted starts to loam. We all strive to be perfect, I know for decades I continually strived to be the best mom out there. However no matter how hard you try or how picture perfect your life is. Perfection is not real. You are bound to mess up and that's okay.
All of my children have grown to be great and wonderful individuals. Although their journey to becoming these amazing people was one filled with countless mom fails on my account. While yes a fail is a fail, I like to think each fail helped to shape not only them, but myself as well. Making my family a group of unique and special individuals that were crafted by the lessons learned from each fail.
Every fail wasn't this big catastrophic event for myself of the children. Some fails were small and in passing. There are some fails that I remember, but the children do not. There are also some fails that they remember and I do not. When they share them with me the only thought that goes through my head is, "Damn, why didn't I remember that. It obviously left an impact on them. Here's yet another fail for me". I find that those are the fails that loam over my heart the most. I love who my children and and without that fail they might be entirely different people, but as a mom I still do wish that I could have been a little more perfect in that moment for them.
I can look back on fails and wish for better or feel a little sting from my misstep. Although I can remember there were stretches of time where I actually felt like a complete failure of a mom. I find that I wasn't failing because of anything I was doing. Rather the fail was in trying too excessively to be a perfect mom. I was unable to relax and enjoy the simple moments with my children while they were small. This is a regret, but a great reminder to not pay too much attention to the idea of perfection because fails are going to happen either way. So why not enjoy life and fail rather than stress and fail.
I believe out of all of the mom fails I encountered over the years. My biggest mom fail however was the pressure I was placing on myself to be the perfect mom, was my biggest failure. Being a mom is magical, its scary and its hard as hell to have your whole heart walking around the world without you close enough to protect them. It's something I'm still working on. Yet, I have began to forgive myself, to heal, to enjoy our moments, to laugh more, and to enjoy our lives with just as much passion and focus as I used to use when it came to my fails.
Here is my take away for the day;
1. You're doing fantastic!
2. Allow yourself to step back to see your world
and your children for who they are.
3. Let go of perfect, being you is all the kids need.
This is the year of organizing in my house. I really want to take my time and figure out what needs to stay, what needs to go, and what organization tools are going to work for my family and I. Since I really want to find sustainable and efficient organization for my house. I am taking it slow and conquering space by space. This month I tackled the back entryway.
Our back entryway is a pretty open space with only a dresser against a wall for storage. As time wore on I noticed that things would start to pile against the walls, pile on top of the dresser, and pile on the floor into forever growing piles. To prevent this chaotic mess from happening again and again. I first laid down a rug that would hopefully catch a lot of the dirt on peoples shoes preventing them from dragging it through the house. I then placed a fair sized bench along the wall with baskets undernth. The baskets are used as storage bins for all sorts of shoes. The last addition that I made was adding in a wall mount with hooks. This way all of the coats, scarfs, leashes, and hats had a home that would be a lot more visually pleasing than the floor.
Through this process of building permeant homes for such things like raincoats and dog leashes. I did make sure to really evaluate if things needed to stay in my home or if it was best to toss them. It may have taken me a whole day to get under control, but I am extremely proud of how it turned out. I also have high hopes that my family and I will be able to keep our back entryway nice and organized all year round.
What has been your latest cleaning conquest?
I would love to know your organization tips and tricks.
Comfort Zones are these spaces we mentally craft for ourselves to sanely and emotionally stay safe from the things we do not know, the things we fear, or the things we simply do not like. Everyone has one and everyone experiences some kind of influence over their lives from their comfort zones.
However the question is how much influence
does your comfort zone have over your life?
Has the relationship turned into a constraining one?
I recently asked myself these questions. The answers I found, the ones I gave back to myself were quite disheartening. I have come to the conclusion that my comfort zone is constraining me in ways that I would like it not to be.
Mission 2019... Take Charge and Release My Mind From
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