More than likely, you're a sweet BADASS, and you don't know it yet. We tend to hide that part of ourselves out of fear of offending those around us. We also tend to think if we fully let our BADASS out into the world, that the world will flinch from it and say it's not good enough. That we are not good enough. Well, Guess What:
You Are Enough
Your more than enough. You're freaken hot, you have the ability to not only conquer the day, but you can also do it with style, a smile on your face and without dare, I say it, without breaking a fucken sweat! So Guess what today we are taking charge no longer are we going to shy away from the uncomfortable, no longer will we let others lead us, we are letting our BADASS self loose into the world!
Go Get It
If you want it, go fucken get it. If it's your desire, work for it. It won't be easy. A lot of people will say you can't, that it's not possible but fuck it do it anyways. You stay motivated, don't bank on others to do it for you. Don't wait for the right time because the right time is right now. You stay motivated, you keep working towards that thing you want, and you do it with a smile on your face because it really does piss people off!
Navigate To Success
Our journeys always bring us to crossroads. Ones where we have to choose how we are going to go forward and which way we are going to go. Go ahead, pause if you need, take a deep breath, pull your strength from within you, and stop, stop doubting yourself. You got this you know you do, you have to remind yourself that you can do it. You have the strength, the power, the courage to keep going.
Fuck Fear, You Got This
That fucken fear gets us all and every fucken time. It stops us dead in our tracks; it causes us to freeze up. Most of all, it affects how far we can go, but that's the secret. We think we can only go a certain distance because our fear is in the way. It's stopping us from our true journey. So I say FUCK FEAR! Ignore it, push past it and go for it! You're a BADASS, and guess what you freaken going to move mountains soon!
Its Time To Stop Dreaming And Start Doing
Dreaming is a big thing. Dreaming Bigger is an even bigger thing, and we all find ourselves dreaming of less work, a bigger house, a newer car, or whatever. It doesn't matter what our dreams hold for us what does matter is the fact that at some point we have to stop dreaming. We have to start doing. We need to start creating a reality that is bigger and better than any dream we hold on too. It's bigger than anything we could have really imagined. So stop Dreaming start doing. The smallest steps will take you to where you need to go. So take them, just start.
Have faith that you're strong enough. You will run into obstacles, the journey will be hard, but your belief in yourself, in all that you can do, in all that you are will take you to that next level. People will see you for the BADASS that you are! They will see you giving it your all every single moment and they will not only look up to you, but they will want to be you. Be a BADASS role model.
Fuck People And What They Think
I mean what can you say everyone and I mean everyone has an opinion. People will always have something to say about what you're doing and guess what not all of it is positive. They will say you're wasting your time; they will create obstacles to try and stop you from even trying. Stop Listening, don't give them the power to affect your thoughts, your desires, your dreams. Fuck there thoughts and feelings. Go For it, ignore the naysayers, and just do you!
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While I love summer as much as the next girl, fall fashions have made their spectacular appearance and I am more than ready to sip on some steaming hot coffee while I watch the colorful leaves of autumn fall from the trees. The secret of what is going to be hot this fall season is out. Keep FOMO far away from your wardrobe this coming season. Here are some of the hottest trends that will be painting the pages of Instagram feeds everywhere this fall.
Plaid, Plaid, and more Plaid!
It's going to be all about the plaid! Here in the northwest plaid is always a hot trend, but this coming fall the world is catching up and styling chic outfits to all sorts of various styles of plaid fashions. Blazers, Pants, Vests, New, and Old nothing is off-limits when it comes to this stellar trend.
Earth Toned Leather
There is something about fall that always brings the deep vibrant colors of fallen leaves into the wardrobe staples. Beautiful rich brown earthy tones are the color of choice, mix it with the busting out into the everyday leather look and guess what you are conquering the day by freaken storm and looking confident I might add!
Pleated skirts, pleated pants, pleated tops. This trend is going to be making quite the splash autumn. It doesn't matter if your fashion is fully pleated or just accented with pleats. Either way, you are going to find yourself stunningly on-trend.
The Bigger, the better! We are taking that statement "GO BIG OR GO HOME" to a whole new level. I want a huge bag, one that holds my computer, iPad, phone, water bottle, chapstick, and everything else I think I could possiably need.
Chic Smart Coats
Coats have always been statement pieces. Recently they have all been about being center stage but this season that is all about to change. This season you are going to want to invest, yes invest in that very simple, elegant, chic, coat. This coat will never be out of fashion, it will follow you as you grow into a better you and it will accompany you on all your adventures. Therefore make it count and invest in the perfect one!
I hike, so yes I have one of those cheap ugly ass ponchos. It works it rolls up into my bag but wait...
It's something new, it's stylish, it's here, and this trend is growing! Ponchos. They are perfect for Friday night lights, short walks by the sea and just chasing the dogs around town. If you don't have a favorite poncho make sure you order one for the season because all your friends are going to have one!
There it is...
The next big secret every fashionista needs to know.
What trends are you most excited for this coming season?
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When the playdates and meetings of a busy life take over, it is easy to forget how to take a moment for yourself and relax. We have all been there either too distracted by life or too determined by work. At some point, each of us tosses the necessity that is relaxation to the waste side.
I am notorious for forgetting to turn off work mode when I get home. I'll step out of mu shoes munch on some dinner then proceed to stuff my face back into my computer screen. MaKayla has a hard time wanting to stop working once she is on a roll. MaKayla believes she not only produces her best work when she is on a nonstop creative rollercoaster but also is the most productive, which is why she prefers for her inspiration to naturally fizzle out rather than to stop it abruptly to eat.
We both have our workaholic ways about us, which is why we have such a deep appreciation for simple relaxation methods. Don't get it stuck in your head that the only way to relax is to take out five hours from your day to lounge around soaking in a tub and snacking on some popcorn while you watch tv. Relaxation comes in all warmly inviting shapes, no you do not have to dedicate hours to it, and no you do not have to be flush with cash to enjoy and to get all of the perks out of relation. Relaxing after a crazy day can be as easy as sipping wine with your loved one on the couch talking about absolutely nothing. Relaxation merely is you taking time for you, feeling no stress, no frustration, and no anxiousness. It's you calmly enjoying the moment.
Grab some candles, a bottle of your favorite wine and run a hot steaming bath just for you! Level up and add your favorite essential oil scent to the bathwater. You will feel like you just flew off to an intimate spa, but still retain the perks of being at home.
The stresses of the everyday responsibilities are high, why not take some time to burn off all that stress with a good workout. Level up and plan a workout in the morning and finish the day with an evening walk around the neighborhood.
Create A Zen Bedroom
Sleep is essential to your health. Building a Zen feeling in your room has lasting benefits for you and whoever crashes with you. Zen bedrooms are easy to create start decluttering the shit out of that space and add a few blooms.
Sometimes our body needs a checkout moment. A moment to say, it's overworked, it's overstressed, it needs a break. Try to fit in a 15-minute catnap.
Pack A Lunch
If you're packing a lunch for the day, where you decided to open it up and eat it becomes unlimited. You can eat it in the park, at the beach, maybe by the lack, or perhaps there is a favorite spot waiting for you to discover right outside your door.
Outing To The Local Museum
The majority of museums have a discount day or a free day on the books. Call your local museum and ask, utilize the free days, and plan a trip to explore the exhibits that are quite literally waiting for you to explore!
Treat Yourself To Your Favorite Dessert
My Favorite dessert is full of vast amounts of sugar and calories, so I try not to eat it very often. There are those just for no reason days when I need a pick me up that I will, of course, treat myself. So yes, you should allow yourself to indulge in your favorite dessert for no reason other than you deserve it and you're relaxing.
I genuinely enjoy the hour spent sitting and waiting. In all honesty, I chose a manicure mainly because if my nails are wet, I'm forced to unplug from social media.
Old fashion ice cream shops remind me of my childhood. Of summer days playing in the sun, the life before adulting. It's my special place, and it's only a few bucks for an ice cream treat that takes me down memory lane and reminds me to enjoy my moments.
Just being me, taking the time to just breath, to take in all that's around me, is hard for me to do. I have tried mediation, and I use to be good at it, yet lately with life being what it is that's not working for me anymore so I have had to change things up and I'm allowing myself to just sit at the beach with some tunes playing in my headphones watching the waves move in and out of the shore and working on just taking deep breaths!
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I believe that one of the biggest lessons to remember time and time again as a person who might be considered a control freak by some is that, I can not control the actions of others I can only control my actions. Ohh, trust me if you tell this to a control freak in the heat of the moment you'll never see a face more scorn with fury. Although as one myself few other lessons in this world can bring more still peace to my heart. I try my best to remember this lesson, and when I do, I find it brings my heart a helpful breathe of life especially when it feels like insufferable people are just squeezing the life right out of it. I am only human, so I do falter like everyone else, here are some moments from this past week where I did my best to keep a level head and only attempt to control my thoughts and actions rather than the thoughts and actions of others no matter how strongly I feel my way is the right way.
My Youngest & His Damn Schedule
When the kids were younger, my entire day was dictated by the five of them. As they grew and started school, I found a little more freedom in my schedule to do as I please, which, of course, was shoe shopping. I assumed that as each grew, I would slowly but steadily regain almost the entirety of my day to do with as I please, but jeez was I wrong. Over the last few months, my youngest has a jam-packed his schedule full. With zero regards for mom and her life, I am expected to drop everything and chafer him here and there and every freaking where. Now I know what all of you are thinking; he's my son, of course, I can control him. It's as simple as 1, 2, 3, but here's the thing, while I would love nothing more than to be the sole dictator of my day. I want my youngest to feel free enough to feel like he can jam-pack his schedule full of activities. I want him to experience the easy livings of life because sometimes being an adult sucks ass. Unless he finds some time machine, he won't get to relive these moments again. I want him to look back on this summer and think of all the fun he had and not that he was trapped at home because mom had to do this or mom didn't have time for this. So even though I could say no and take my schedule back from my youngest, I am choosing not too because I want him to be a carless kid for as long as possible.
Umm No Ma'am That Is Not The Problem
MaKayla and I recently attended a meeting where we were able to make our voices heard and listen to the peers of our community. MaKayla and I are pretty strong independent people who take very little shit from people no matter how loud they get. It's just the way we are. While we were at this meeting, we once again heard a particular complaint come up along with what we interpret as an aggressive solution. We stayed silent as everyone interjected their unique voice into the conversation then we took our turn to express ours. In this case, MaKayla and I both genuinely do believe that the problem everyone is upset over is, in fact, not a problem at all. As we expressed this, we encouraged people to have a broader mind of thinking and to really play out their solutions in their minds. I understand the frustration and the want to get everyone on board with your train of thought. So I completely understood when we were met with a very vocal rebuttal. As best as I could, I kept a level head and gave an honest reply. Which unfortunately was met with a bitter aggressive close-minded answer. Even after I said my truth, a section of the room was not willing to change topics until I caved and agreed with their thoughts. In the spirit of professionalism and knowing that I can not control someone and their close-minded opinion, I did my best to find common ground to which I could reply with a yes. Once the yes left my mouth and into their ears, their heads immediately cooled as if they had just won a triumphant battle allowing the room to move on. As much as I wanted for the room to hear what I had to say and immediately agree without any resistance. I knew that it was impossible, especially so when I was met with such aggression for stating my honest opinion with no desire to control the tone of the room or people thoughts. I choose to peacefully state my stance and then step back, knowing that if anything, they did physically hear me and my opinion. Which is all that I can ask for.
You Can Feel Your Feelings & I'll Go Ahead and Feel Mine
Over the last few months, I have been obsessively worried about the feelings of my close ones. I have such a great love for them that I would never want another person to come into our lives only to cause them to feel negative. While I know this obsession is with a good heart, at the end of the day, I need to remind myself that I cannot control someone's actions as much as I cannot control how someone feels about them. I would love to save each of my children from and heartbreak too deep, but heartbreak, tears, loss, and devastation are all those awful life emotions that take you on a journey of wisdom and strength making you a greater and stronger person later on. In all of the haze of trying to create a soft place for my loved ones to land. I forgot that I too am going through a heartbreak that is filled with tears and devastation making me feel lost and emotionally vacant. To keep a sane mind and a healthier place for my loved ones to come to when they are feeling low. I do my best to remember that attempting to control how someone else feels no matter how pure the intention is an unwise task. For not only will it not really work, but it will also cause myself to forget that I have my own feelings that I need to feel and to be okay with.
I can not control what others do, what others think, or what others feel no matter how much I want to control a situation because the fear of the unknown is just too damn scary. We all should remember that you will find more peace of mind if you focus on your actions, thoughts, and feelings then come together with others to deal with any problems at hand.
This is one of my many life lessons that will stick by my side forever.
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Now and again, we all get this overwhelming feeling to go through some drastic change. Whether it be related to career, style, friends, significant others, or location, we all can equally identify with this unknown compelling force. That hides beneath the surface of us all waiting for the perfect moment to pounce and conducts a complete 360 change on our lives. When you're in the thick of this do it now mind frame. It can be easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. We are no strangers to wanting to pack up the car and move six states away. Since we know, we are not the only ones who battle with the crave for change we thought a perfect post to share with you would be the questions we ask ourselves when the desire for change seems almost all too powerful and alluring.
Is there anyone influencing your decision?
Loved ones are a real asset to have in life, but sometimes the lines of what they want and what you want can be blurred. It is especially hard to know if someone is in your ear about a decision if they are someone you genuinely trust for support and guidance. However, if you feel like you are craving a significant life change, I would encourage you to take some time out to be completely alone to think through your thoughts and feelings without others interjecting theirs into the conversation.
Are you happy?
At the end of the day, it is you and you alone who has to live with your life decisions, which is why it is so incredibly essential to place as much focus on your overall happiness as possible.
In this moment in time, is this what you want for you?
Any way you toss it, slice it or turn it, life is complicated. At points in your life, you'll find that no matter how much you want something or how much you cave for it to be your new reality because of the thickness that is life. Somethings have to wait for their turn. As much as it sucks to say, I encourage you to think about if desired your change is as beneficial to your life as you so want it to be.
Could this be a pattern for you?
We all have patterns that we fall victim to time and time again. We may not see it, but I'm sure if you sit down for a heart to heart with your loved ones, they will happily explain to you the patterns that you can't seem to escape. It could be that you are not seeking a change you might only be running from something. Address it now or address it later, but keep in mind running no matter the distance or duration is going to take a toll on you mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Could my crave for change be a reaction to something bigger?
We are all human, which means significant events are happening in our lives whether we want them or and whether we fully notice them or not; it is only natural to want to change things up when there is a significant life shift happening. Take into consideration if this change will only help you at the moment or if this change has the power to be an asset to your life as a whole.
Could boredom be a persuasive suspect?
We all crave adventure when the tides are calm. While a few days away on some crazy expedition might be in order. Think about if you need a life change or just a life break.
From time to time, each one of us reaches a point where we want to toss our current life out the window and start a new. On the occasion that is the right move for you, then get it, girl. You deserve the life that you dream. Although for the most part, a deep craving for change might be the accomplice to something else. Leave regret outside and ask yourself these question to get you thinking if this 360 change is one for you.
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I wish that I could be one of those people that wake up at the crack of dawn with a smile and a can-do attitude. Ohh how I envy your control over the snooze button. So that you have a better picture, I am the kind of girl that could get the best 8 hours of sleep her body has ever had and still hit that snooze button twelve times. I am also the kind of girl who has no concept of time in the morning. A fully awake, I know that it takes me about forty-five minutes minimum to get ready to walk out the door in the morning. Although in the morning, when I am freshly awakened from a deep slumber, can easily justify a ten minute morning routine. In all honesty, most days, I am forced to choose between a shower and breakfast. I also am left with no choice but to mentally run through my closet while I am shampooing my curls, trying to figure out what I want to wear that day. Every morning is one hectic swift motion to another. I can't complain because I bring it on myself and even though I hate having to choose between a hot shower and a tasty breakfast. In the spirit of growing as a person and evolving into more of a productive adult, I have decided to attempt to make one significant change to my morning routine.
Don't be fooled; it's not giving up precious moments of sleep to wake up earlier. I have decided that I am going to try to assemble and layout my outfits beforehand. For myself, the time spent finding an outfit is a make or break moment every morning. Some days I have no trouble slipping something on and walking straight out the door without a doubt in my mind about what I am wearing. However, there are days I can spend forty-five minutes trying on outfit after outfit trying to find that perfect one that is not only going to be cute, but comfortable as well. I know we all can agree the level of comfort on your fashions varies from day to day depending on how you are feeling. This small little fact is what I like to credit my morning demise too. So with an afternoon can-do spirit in hand, I am going to pre-assemble my outfits for one entire work week and see where that gets me.
With complete transparency, I am hoping for two happy outcomes.
1) A quick, easy, and headache-free morning routine
-No longer waste precious minutes due to whack outfits that don't fit my vibe for the day.
2) A clean and organized closet
-Disaster strikes and I'm panicked scrounging around for clothes. I'd love for my clothes to remain on the hangers instead of on the ground for once.
I am ready to tackle my morning with a fiery pre-planned smile.
I am excited to see how this next week goes for me and don't worry I'll make sure to fill you in so you can deliberate if you should pre-planned your outfits too. I know I'm not the only sleepy one out there that falters in the morning when it comes to getting dressed. I'll be the guinea pig you sit back and prepare to hear me rave about how revolutionary this decision was or get ready to listen to me speak of another try and fail. Either way, I'm pretty excited for whichever outcome.
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Boom! Just like that, we find ourselves in the closing chapters of summer. Happy August, everyone. I hope your summer has been full of adventure, love, laughs, and lots and lots of hugs from those you love. This year summer went by way to fast for us. Not to worry because I'm going to squeeze as much sun time as I can over the next few weeks. I'm thrilled to introduce to all of you our theme for this month's windows. If you're new here, every month we create a new window display to match up with who we are as individuals and as a company, and we share our meaning with all of you here on our Lifestyle page. So Welcome August with our stupendous theme of:
"Society Loves To Judge Us All"
Have You Ever:
Have you ever walked into a room and suddenly you feel your body heat up from the tips of your toes to the top of your head? You know what I'm talking about that sudden embarrassment you feel because you realize that you are completely overdressed for the room you just stepped foot in. People are more than glancing your way; they are looking you up and down. The judgment from those looks feels like small little daggers cutting into your entire body. You start to feel unsure of yourself, your physical demeanor changes. No longer are you feeling confident in who you are in your own skin, but your feeling insecure as to wither anyone in the room will see the real you. All of this happens in a split second. It's fast, it's overwhelming, its a lot of feelings happening all at once and all you did was walk into a room. Society Loves to judge us!
We Don't Mean Too:
We are all a part of society, so of course, we judge, but we don't mean to judge so quickly, so harshly, and without all the facts. We know it's wrong; we tend to try and shy away from the act of judging others. It happens every day in every social event that there is. I'm usually overdressed, to be honest. Those that know me well know that how I dress is not about trying to outdo others, but it is, in fact, me just being me. The majority of moms I know wear sneakers and don't get me wrong I own plenty of my own. I love to wear then to the beach, the gym, the mountains, but that's about all the places I love to wear sneakers too. It's no secret that I feel more comfortable in heels, I feel like a more honest me when I'm walking around town or just hitting up the grocery store for a gallon of milk. I find that I am trying to get to the point where I can find outfits that will allow me to flow from a more me look to an instant more comfortable look which is what we have worked into our windows.
Discovering a New Part Of Me:
So here's my funny for the month. My idea of around town comfy is still going to be me looking and feeling hot. We all love versatility, which is why I love creating outfits that look phenomenal with my heels and my flats. Both variations of my outfit will not only help myself to feel more physically comfortable but also mentally comfortable with an outfit. People are always going to have an opinion, so who gives a flying fuck if people judge. I've decided to embrace me being me completely me for the first time. I'm not worried about being overdressed about being underdressed about the looks people pass my way, about the glances about trying to be a better me. This time around this new me is one that is perfect, it's one I'm going to embrace, accept, and love. I love my journey, but sometimes you have to pause in your journey just to take in the moments that you're in and that's me this year! Moments, Moments, and more Moments!
We featured a few different pieces of fashion in our windows with this thought in mind.
All Of these styles were picked with a few things in mind
1) They look all fantastic in heels or flats. 2) They can easily and comfortably walk you through the door at the office and the door at the wine bar. 3) Their versatility from a nice pair of slacks to a stunning pair of jeans is one of wonders. Your outfits are a beautiful reflection of your unique personality, don't let the fear of being improperly dressed or the fear of needing a complete wardrobe change dictate what fashions greet the day with you.
Our windows this month might be saying a lot, but we hope that it is a
message that we can all find deep and personal meaning with.
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In my eyes, my group of friends are the absolute best people around. They are loveable, loyal, and bring so much joy to my every day that I can't imagine life without any one of them.
Although a thought or two can't help but to creep in, "What does it take to be a true friend and what characteristics should we be looking for when we are trying to decide if this new someone has the ability to a true friend?"
Today is friendship day! Which means there is no better day than today to try to answer such questions. Here are what I believe the ten best qualities that make a friend a true friend.
Trustworthiness is huge! I put it at the top of the list because for myself personally, I think it's the top number one thing I look for when making and maintaining true friendships. Allowing yourself to truly and fully trust another person can only come with time. As you allow your friend to see how much they can trust you, they will also show you how much you can trust them. In turn, emotionally crafting this unworldly colorful bond that only the two of you get to experience.
If you have a friend that supports you through the good and bad times then yes without a doubt you have found a true friend. You would be amazed at how many people will bail on you at first sight of trouble.
Love and respect go hand in hand. If someone loves you, they will freely give you the respect that you deserve. If they don't really love you, then respect isn't there. If you have a friend who shows you the respect you know you deserve as an individual, then don't doubt the love they feel for you. A true and lasting friend is a beautiful blend of the two.
A person who lies to you and still calls you friend is not a friend! I can not say that loud enough or enough times. A true friend will not lie to you. They will want what's best for you and they will want to be honest with you. They will want only the best and kindest things for you. Honesty is essential in any relationship, including friendship.
Someone who is going to be loyal to you is definitely friend material. You want someone in your life that's going to have your back, that will stand up with you, not against you. So look for that person who has the ability to be loyal because that trait found in a true friend.
We all have those days where all we need to do is vent. To be in a safe, freeing atmosphere where we can speak of our deepest darkest fears and our wildest dreams. These moments of need are why this trait right here made it onto the list. A true friend will always be available to listen.
Enjoy Spending Time With Each Other
With all these traits flowing around us, we actually have to enjoy spending time with them. Not everyone who shows the traits to you will necessarily fit into your life, and that's okay. It is a must to have the ability to have fun with them, to enjoy small moments as well as big ones.
Allows You To See Them For Who They Are
We each wear a different mask throughout our days. We have a professional mask, a mom mask, a sister mask, a friend mask, the list can go on and on. The important thing to take from this must-have trait is that we need someone who can accept all of who we are, no matter what mask you may be wearing at any given moment. We want our true friends to be able to see who we are with all of our flaws and all and still show all of the other traits.
Allowing someone to see all of you is truly a leap of faith. You never really know if you're going to be rejected or not, and that's a massive fear to conquer. When you do take this leap of faith and the person you choose to share yourself with is open and accepting of who you truly are inside and out, with no judgment. That right, there is the moment that you know you have a real friend for life.
We are not all perfect in any way. In fact we all tend to fail on the perfect scale because like I have said in the past, perfect is not real. So let go of perfect and look for the person who will forgive you. The person who can forgive and still love you still wants to friends in spite of your flaws is the truest of truest friends!
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